Failing to Set Realistic Goals is a Plan to Fail

Don’t sell yourself short of your dreams by failing to set realistic goals.

There is an 80/20 rule to goal setting which is why we have to be specific about what we want. Measuring how long it may take us to accomplish certain goals and the attainability of set goals is an ongoing process. But now I want talk to you all about being REALISTIC in your personal transformation. Ask yourself, are you being real about the work you say you want to do?

Now there are some things that we simply cannot do liking walking on the surface of the sun because that is not humanly possible. But if you are into science you can definitely become an astronaut and walk on the moon. So you have to approach setting your goals from a standpoint that speaks to your abilities. Real talk, you may even have to ask yourself if the goals you’re striving to reach fit your lifestyle? Will they benefit your career? Your family? Will they add value to areas of your life for a better quality of life.

Be real with yourself and work hard because when people see what you’re realistically trying to accomplish, they will support you.

It’s all in your mind. The attitude you develop towards your goal will carry you further than having an astronomical list of things to do that read more like a bucket list than reality.

It’s okay to dream but in order to grow and experience the personal transformation that we seek, we have to be firm in the goals we set for ourselves and measure our progress with integrity.

Quitting is not an option and as I continue to guide your thoughts, the beauty in working on yourself is getting real with who you are and what you represent while making personal adjustments.

Getting Specific gives you direction.

Measuring your progress gives you insight to your productivity. 

The attainability of your goals keeps you focused on completing one thing at a time versus a life-long to-do list. 

Being realistic helps you get your life in order. You can shoot for the stars

Life is in the power of the tongue. Your self talk needs to be clear so that your continued effort translates to your mindset. So take pride in your self improvement.

Set your goals. Stay quiet about them if you want to. Crush them continually, and clap for yourself as you move along. Speak life into your dreams and step into your authority to make it happen.

Stay lifted in this season.

~LaTilya

Measure Your Progress Towards Your Goals

I have to say being back to work and pursuing my dream to be my own boss I am walking it like I talk as I share how I’m working on creating daily value so that I experience life versus simply existing.

There comes a time when we not only have to prioritize our goals but we have to be SMART about it. We got specific last week because that is the first step to successfully completing your goals. The second step is measuring your progress. 

So let’s continue on this journey of creating SMART goals together.  Are you ready? Let’s talk about Measuring Your Progress

Examine your list of goals and aspirations. If you have not created a list for yourself, I suggest that you do because you have to hold yourself accountable for your dreams. It’s your responsibility and you determine the amount of time it will take for you to complete certain tasks. For example, going off to college people estimate that they will graduate in four years, but sometimes that fifth year is needed to perhaps meet all requirements and boost their GPA prior to applying to graduate school. 

Whether it’ll take you one month or one year to cross some things off of your list, you should have in your mind how long you envision completing certain tasks. If you see that some of your objectives are taking longer to complete, don’t give up. The beauty in this is that you can make adjustments.

Look at your goal one: You may say I want to be healthier. So does that mean you will work out x number of days and change your diet? What adjustment do you need to make to reach your healthier goal? How much time are you giving yourself to see the results?  You can measure that progress from week to week and month to month. But you must be definitive.

Stay the course and accomplish what you can. Remember that everything worth having will not always s come easy. 

Whether it’s a task or an objective the specificity and measurability of your goal begins when you speak it into the atmosphere. 

Life is in the power of the tongue. So as you write down your goals be clear and measure your progress by the short tasks you have completed based on the priority they have towards your ultimate goal. As I said last week if your vision is not clear to you, it won’t translate well and you will risk becoming counterproductive resulting in no progress being made at all.

Remember things may change, but when you work on one goal at a time, you’ll be pleased to look back on where you started and realize that you have been putting in the work and it’s only up from here.

Continue to speak life into your dreams and step into your authority to make it happen.

We’ve gotten SPECIFIC now we are about to MEASURE OUR PROGRESS.

Check back next week as I share with you how we will determine if our goals are attainable.

~LaTilya

Get Specific About What You Want

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Prioritizing yourself as you crush your goals is difficult when you don’t have an action plan, so I’m glad to share my journey with you as I create SMART goals that will propel my career to the next level. Identifying your strengths is only the beginning to creating the life that you want to live. So bear down with me and get SPECIFIC about what you want.

The first step to creating an action plan. Whether it’s a task or an objective, ultimately everything we do must be intentional as we work towards our personal development and getting out of our own way. The specificity and effort you put into taking steps to organize your life will pave the path for your future success.

For example: Making the statement that you want to start your own business is a broad goal to have. You have not stated what kind of business you want or will potentially start. But when you are specific, you’ll say, I’d like to start a success coaching business working with mid-career women that want to maximize their skills and boost their productivity at work. 

When you are clear about what you want and can articulate that, then the work you begin to do becomes aligned with that goal and your focus. If your vision is not clear, it won’t translate well and you will risk becoming busy and counterproductive. Remember, people are watching you, and blanket statements are a gateway to your weaknesses when you are not passionate about the work you are attempting to do.

Get real with yourself and do not trade in your authenticity for approval. The only person that matters is you because sometimes your goals are personal.. Crush them continually, and clap for yourself as you move along. 

Now things may change, but when you work on one goal at a time, you’ll be pleased to look back on where you started and realize that you have been putting in the work and it’s only up from here.

So be intention. Be clear. Be specific about what you want because the only thing holding you back is you. Now homework time. Sit down and write 3 things you’d like to accomplish. It can be this week, this month, or even this year. Are you being specific enough? It not, how can you make your goal more specific so that you can see which step you need to take next?

The beauty in this is that you can make adjustments as needed as long as you don’t give up. This is step process and we will reach our destination.

~LaTilya

Eliminating Threats As You Grow

Hey Goodbuddies,

Did you know that not knowing what makes you stand out is a weakness because we all have something inside of us that needs to be shared. Your voice is unique, however life gets complicated when we face battles that we don’t quite understand.

So what does this mean?

-Internal battles are a threat to your growth when self doubt is in place. We have to learn how to advocate for ourselves and affirm our existence without the validation of others. 

Your mindset has to shift to I Can versus I can’t when setting goals for yourself and taking steps to becoming a better you. Your transformation is threatened when you don’t take yourself seriously. So do the work to move past those mind blocks that hold you back because your biggest breakthrough is proving to yourself what you are capable of doing.

Whew! That’s a lot to take in but so are the things that are out of your control.

-External threats to your progress and growth are the limiting factors that you face even when you do everything right for yourself but the logistics of working with others may be unclear. 

In situations where your skills, knowledge, and abilities are being counterproductive, that’s a red flag to regroup and find a beneficial endeavor. All opportunities are not good opportunities so use discernment.

There will be shifts in your mindset as you experience personal growth. After all the goal is to grow. As I’ve said week after week by Continuing to do the work on yourself it makes you a better person and more aware of productivity.

So I hope you are keeping track of your homework because when you put it all together you next step is to create an action plan that will maximize your strengths, forge your weaknesses, identity opportunities to grow, and minimize threats to your progress. This work is personal and ultimately you have to do what’s best for you.

I share little tidbits here and there so go find me on FB @drlatilyarashon and IG @iamdrlatilyarashon for more insightful tips on being you, doing you, for you, and I look forward to connecting with you soon.

~LaTilya

Creating New Habits: Forge Your Weaknesses

Hey Goodbuddies,

I’m so excited to check in with you all this week to see how you’re living and how we can make it even better.

So I’m going to hop right in and tell you that for the past two weeks I have been doing a series on the Mac Muzik Show to help people maximize their strenghts.

I have broken down the S.W.O.T. analysis which is for the benefit of identifying your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities to grow, and threats to your progress.

Identifying your strengths and weaknesses is uncomfortable but we have to be aware of areas for growth if we want to boost our productivity. It is difficult to admit that we all struggle with some things but it is a necessity.

So let’s get into it: 

-Communicating is always tough for some people because you know what you want to say but some things get lost in translation. A weakness sometimes is verbal because the slightest inflection could be deemed as hostile or abrasive. So it may be best in some situations to listen before speaking so that you have a clear understanding.

-Prioritization can be a weakness because trying to do too many things at the same time affects your output. We have to learn what takes precedence over keeping us busy. When you learn how to list things by their order of importance and urgency, you are able to get things done more efficiently. So start by creating a short list of 3-5 tasks you need to complete each day and check them off as you go.

-Operating within your comfort zone! There is no way you will grow if you continue to do things the same way all of the time. Your personality traits will be pushed to the limit and it may even unnerve you, but you have to learn how to rely on your full skillset and not just the skills you are most comfortable with using. 

From time to time you will strengthen your weaknesses then begin to identify other areas that you will need to improve. Doing the work on yourself makes you a better person. These good habits come into play when you

-Identify your strengths to know what you’re good at and use those skills daily.

-Forge your weaknesses to push those skills to the surface and stop holding yourself back.

-Give yourself so grace and understand that every venture will not be perfect.

So take some time, and identify the areas of your life and abilities that you need to strengthen. We all have weaknesses but it takes a strong person to acknowledge them and work to make them better.

Do a comparison of your strengths and weaknesses and ask yourself are you being as forthright in your efforts as you can be? There is no right or wrong answer, just know that You Depend On You!

Continue your walk as the fearfully and wonderfully made personal that you are. That’s all I have for you this week.

So thank you for rocking with your girl. You can find me on FB @drlatilyarashon and IG @iamdrlatilyarashon for more insightful tips on being you, doing you, for you, and I look forward to connecting with you soon.

I’ll check in with ya’ll later.

~LaTilya

Mother.Teacher.Author

Taking a personal inventory of myself and my skills, I knew that I wanted to do more than ordinary things. Ever since childhood I have had words floating around in my head that I have forced out onto paper over the years. Recently I sat down and faced my business, my approach to book marketing and my journey into entrepreneurship and realized I needed help. Furthermore, I needed to help myself get better positioned and edpreneur.

I base a lot of my writing on education because I began teaching in 2008 when I was over halfway done with my Masters in Public Administration. I had a plan for how my career would go as I completed requirements for my new teacher portfolio for the TAPP program. When MGRESA changed the submission dates for program completion, I was already a month into my Educational Specialist program because I had no traditional training or pedagogy. I set goals early in my teaching career based on where I would be in 3 years, in 5 years, and even 10 years. I met my 5 year goals within 3 so I know the power of manifestation.

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By the time I had completed my educational specialist degree in 2010, I was ahead of my 5 year plan. Towards the end of my 4th year of teaching I had the bright idea to pursue my doctorate and from there my idea to write my book was outlined. It was not until 2013 that I put my most memorable experiences onto a word document and I began sifting through the details. I have always been ambitious and in between a divorce in 2011, school transfer in 2013, getting remarried in 2014, and stalling on my dissertation proposal I managed to graduate in 2016 with another degree, Doctor of Education with an emphasis in Higher Education Leadership, while simultaneously self-publishing my book.

Being a mother is my single most important job in my life but offering ebooks online, becoming my own boss, creating helpful content for other moms, teachers and ambitious individuals infusing my passion for writing and helping people together. Through my education, mixed work experiences, skills and training I’m confident that’s reading my books will help with personal development of individuals who struggle with finding balance in their careers and personal lives.

I have journaled and set new goals for myself my whole life and made the necessary adjustments when needed. Being asked was getting my degrees hard, do I like teaching, if I weren’t teaching what would I be doing, and are you going to keep writing is the reason I keep creating.

There’s no one size fit all but I like to think that I have a way of naturally understanding people and not judging their individuality. I have something for everyone!

I Brag Differently, You Should Too!

So you want to start a business?

Write a book?

Host events?

Let’s begin with the end in mind.

Knowing who you want to teach, reach, and speak to is a crucial part to how impactful you will be. So let’s brag together!

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Start Showing Up For Yourself

People often ask me how am I able to do so much and never get tired? It’s not that I don’t get tired, I just know that there are some things I simply just want to do in my life and I have to make things happen.

All of my life I kept journals, I wrote things down, and would often revisit those list to see if I have been able to check things off of my list. I have a list of accomplishments from military service to achieving advanced degrees. All of this would not be possible if I had not set down and continuously updated my goals.

I have felt overwhelmed and paralyzed by fear so I realigned my goals?  I took time to identify my strengths to take control of my life and push pass my fears?

I want to coach others to do the same and together we will do the work to help you recognize your self-worth, prioritize your goals, and speak life into your aspirations.  It is important to LOVE yourself intensely, create opportunities for growth, and step into your purpose with authority.

Working with me will help you gain:

1. Clarity as you position yourself for greatness.

2. Love for yourself through affirmations.

3. Purpose as you set attainable goals.

4. Understanding as you reflect on your life.

5. Sense of self as you CELEBRATE you!

“Closer to Purpose Than You Think” is my 30 day self-paced success guide that will be available August 1, 2019. I cannot wait for you to unlock your magic.

~Dr. LaTilya Rashon

Thing 3: Coaching Myself

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Today I sat, I read, I prayed, and I listened to what my mind, body and spirit was gently preparing me for.  Then in my subconsciousness my body felt the sudden urge to move.  Not move outside of my house but move closer to my chromebook so that I could sit up and write.

It is a new month and I have yet to really type out my focus and present a new blog but I can say that my mind has been very busy with ideas, lists, goals, and timelines that I must crank something out today.  Even though I successfully converted my Brown Sugar Magic book into a more focused Goal Setting and Success Coaching Guide that I want to convert into an email course or something… working on the logistics of that!  I’m doing all of this by myself, so I’m taking my time!

However lately, I have been on a quiet journey of re-centering myself because I’ve needed divine intervention in my thought processes while ultimately working on me.  Ironically light has transcended through me and I have been helping others not really thinking about it in that way.  I only know I’ve been helping because of the messages and encouragement I have received.  But in my readings today, two things stood out and they made my heart race just a little bit…  have I been Believe in your worth.

Release any doubts of your value.Believe in your worth.

Release any doubts of your value.pouring into others when I felt empty? and, am I truly preparing myself for what I want?

I did a live video the other day on my LaTilya Rashon “tilyarealeyes”page and while I got feedback, I said to myself that I was just beginning to scratch the surface of the work that I am doing on myself.  I’m going to do a follow-up to that video on my youtube channel soon but right now I’m just figuring some stuff out.

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I KNOW a lot of people, but the reality is I call very few my friends because as the seasons change and we grow individually, we realize that everyone does not nourish your soul in the same way.  We as people make mistakes in general and when we are working through those things, the last thing we want to feel is any type of memory that could reset your feelings towards those things.  This may seem like a ramble…but it’s not!  I’m just clearing the space in my head for the endured journey I am taking.

I wrote a while back about 3 Things I’m Completely Obsessing Over and Thing 3 was finding the BALANCE in my LIFE!  I am still very much my hardest critic.  As I examine my life, it is a canvas for others because I have a story to tell about how even when I block certain things out and jump over hurdles, I have NEVER just given up!  I am a walking billboard for beating statistics…I can’t wait to get that story told.

In the months to come I am going to unveil my life in a series of lessons I’ve learned.  It’s for my healing and for my growth.  I did not get this far because I wasn’t focused.  I got this far because I was driven…  I would be remiss to not mention that two awesome friends Yolanda and Ashley have spoke into my life a shift in careers so I am embracing their genuine sincerity.

There’s plenty of work to do and in by doing the work on myself I hope my transparency continues to transcend.  Some of the things to be tackled are:

  1. Growing up as a only child.
  2. My feelings towards my biological father.
  3. My first attempt at college…The University of Florida (2000-2001)
  4. My failed marriages (2003-2011) and (2014-2017)
  5. Transitioning careers (USAF, Child Support, Teaching, Writing, ____________)
  6. Expunged record of arrest from 2009…
  7. Financial Ruin and the Recovery Process.
  8. Trust and Intuition.
  9. Remaining positive during the storm.

I’m not empty, I’m just cautious.  We can still pour into others without completely tapping out.  I know and recognize my limitations as I work towards and prepare myself for the LIFE and LOVE I want. As I COACH myself, I hope you take away little nuggets along the way.

Isn’t ironic how on August 26, 2016 my thought process was I Don’t Want to Coach, I Just Want to Write but that was more so in the aspect of being a writing coach.  But I’m exploring a different avenue…Life and Success Coaching because my purpose is bigger than I innately realized in the beginning. For faith is substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

Research continues… Continue to follow my journey… Leave a nice comment or note and please share!

I am not perfect but I will use my voice to do what I do best…Teach Others How to Cope!

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3 Steps to Living a Better Life

They say that you should smile at the people around you because you never know what somebody is going through.  But when you can’t smile at people I say you should be a beacon of light that shines so bright that your positivity and inspiration speaks before you say a word.

I have been asked how I keep a smile on my face while dealing with the struggle, and I say it is because I know my worth.  I was specifically asked how I am so happy while my life is in transition.  My answer in short has been that I have to remember who I am, remember that my sons need a WHOLE mother, and I must place value in myself.

People that walk around “Happy” all of the time are living in a false reality, because hardships are a part of living and we all go through the struggle from time to time.  However, we have to not remain stagnant in that struggle.  We must deal with REAL life and move forward, but most importantly LEARN.

Taken from my post on Facebook a short list was born…in order to live my life more abundantly and Not Dwell in the Past…Sometimes you just have to speak things into the atmosphere, enjoy life to the fullest, and create the life I want to life.

new life loading conceptStep one of my process is gaining a new lease on life.  I had to realize that losing people in my life was not always a bad thing.  Some losses are out of my individual control.  Death is inevitable…but a breakup be it a long term relationship or marriage is NOT the end of the world.  It may feel like the end of the world when you lose someone you love, but there is a blessing in losing someone that didn’t value your presence in the first place.  Eventually you get tired of feeling unappreciated and realize that you deserve better.  You will cry, flip out, reflect, question, scream, not understand, and then realize that it is time to LET IT GO!  You can try to hold on, but if the relationship was meant to last it would.  Sometimes letting go is hard to do but in order to have peace of mind it is necessary.  No one person is perfect in a relationship, but when you know that YOU have done all that you can, make peace with your circumstances and know that YOU DESERVE BETTER.

goldfish-bowlStep two is to challenge myself and step out of my comfort zone.  I am VERY black and white when it comes to rules because I have too much to lose.  That does not mean I am perfect, don’t get upset and am not confrontational.  It just means it takes a lot to get me to that point.  Everything does not need a reaction, but when I do REACT be ready because it’s not going to be how you would expect.  I’m very comfortable in my skin, so now that I am deciding to sit in front of the camera I am setting myself up for criticism from others.  I am already hard on myself when it comes to my writing, so in order to grow I have to throw myself out there even more.  Whether it’s writing academic content, working on my upcoming projects, or making VLOGS in order to get better I must first not rely on being comfortable.  So PUSH yourself to do things differently and enjoy learning more about who you are and what makes you tick.

6e5988ba841544b4118bb3a88019ea9eStep three is having fun while I fumble through my new experiences.  Whether it’s a dinner date, movies, throwing back a few cocktails, or getting some new ink (I LOVE TATTOOS), there is NOTHING to STOP me from having fun.  After being thrown completely for a loop, and having my world shaken up I have rebounded and know that I will LIVE my LIFE ABUNDANTLY WELL.  My sons are growing and maturing into awesome little men.  They are well taken care of and are happy to see their mom living a little rather being bogged down by sleepless nights and endless tears.  I am deserving of a stress free life… I am not afraid to give love another shot.  I removed toxic people from my life and while others want to assume, they have no idea just how GOOD my life really truly is.  I have spent so much time taking caring of others, it feels good to have a friend in my life that makes things a little easier for me.  I am able to relax.  So I say to my followers and encouragers, OPEN UP an LIVE A LITTLE! Try NEW things…Don’t be so Quick to say NO!

Make a list, check it twice. Life is better with lists! Come back for more in the list series.

~LaTilya Rashon