Start Showing Up For Yourself

People often ask me how am I able to do so much and never get tired? It’s not that I don’t get tired, I just know that there are some things I simply just want to do in my life and I have to make things happen.

All of my life I kept journals, I wrote things down, and would often revisit those list to see if I have been able to check things off of my list. I have a list of accomplishments from military service to achieving advanced degrees. All of this would not be possible if I had not set down and continuously updated my goals.

I have felt overwhelmed and paralyzed by fear so I realigned my goals?  I took time to identify my strengths to take control of my life and push pass my fears?

I want to coach others to do the same and together we will do the work to help you recognize your self-worth, prioritize your goals, and speak life into your aspirations.  It is important to LOVE yourself intensely, create opportunities for growth, and step into your purpose with authority.

Working with me will help you gain:

1. Clarity as you position yourself for greatness.

2. Love for yourself through affirmations.

3. Purpose as you set attainable goals.

4. Understanding as you reflect on your life.

5. Sense of self as you CELEBRATE you!

“Closer to Purpose Than You Think” is my 30 day self-paced success guide that will be available August 1, 2019. I cannot wait for you to unlock your magic.

~Dr. LaTilya Rashon

Shift Happens When You’re Yourself

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I have been taking some time to revamp and restyle my blog after dibbling and dabbling into some other entrepreneur endeavors.  It is always necessary to reexamine your business and make adjustments because new risks, obstacles, and changes occur that redirect your focus.  The vision does not change just the approach to reaching your destination.  The next few things that I do have to be done in order to propel me to my next level.

1. I must push through and be unafraid to tell my story because the more I share my experiences the more impactful I become.  I have found myself holding back at times because it gets tiresome.  People are judgmental and question what they do not understand and jump to conclusions without hearing people speak their truth.  In the creative industry, sparingly sharing your truth and your story will be met with reservations.  However, I know in order to take my career to the next level, consistently telling my story is a must.  I have to put myself out there, because there are some people waiting on me and watching me, so I have to make.  I am ready for the shift to happen as I continue to step more and  more into who I am business wise and woman.

2. Discipline…Authenticity…Perseverance are my mainstay because I know what it takes to govern myself and push through to the next level.  I thrive off of discipline in certain areas of my life because I need order.  I have to have structure in my ventures because without it I feel unproductive.  I have rich background in life, from college, the military, transitioning careers, and being an entrepreneur.  I am staying true to me because there is no other person I’d rather be.  It takes gumption to press forward, when so many things around you change.  Some people have an “S” on their chest, but I’ll take the “P” for persevering through things that were designed to tear me down.

3. Being true to your ideas will show you who is for you and who is against you.  My support has not come from the people closest to me.  I felt slighted at first because I did not understand why people would not want to see me do well.  It is a cruel world when you want better and you feel like you are begging for people to support you.  Going into business for myself be it, part-time or full-time some days are better than others and this is truly a process.  My second stint with MLM/Direct Sales showed me enough to know that was my final time.  People don’t respect or value your time, so eventually you have to learn who is serious and who is not.

4. I truly admire everyone in their winning season because when you are diligent your work begins to pay off for you.  After three years of soul searching and releasing my book, My Fourth Year in Middle School: The Truth About Teaching, I am stepping into the presentation opportunity at the Teacher Self-Care Conference. This is new for me, and as the time is winding down, closer to it, I just have to do it!  I’m also finishing up my book in the process, “12 Ways to Survive Your First Year of Teaching”. I’m pleased with the work that I am doing behind the scenes, and I have taken a lot or pressure off of myself.img_0177

5. It is okay to start over as often as needed.  Some things we try work well initially and we think we have it all figured out, then we realize that we have to revamp in order to paint a clearer image.  I have to evolve and move with the time as I watch the trends around entrepreneurship, upgrading your presence in your chosen industry, and stepping out on faith to be yourself unapologetically.  Our ideas never leave us, they continue to grow as we find ways to expand beyond our comfort zone and intentionally choose to shift into your greater self.  We get stagnant when we don’t get what we want immediately.  Instant gratification is not always the best.  Delayed gratification is more beneficial because you have to work for what you want that way you are grateful when things work in your favor.

Stay tuned, I have so much more in store…

Committing to Leveling Up

I am really late with this update and post but I have been so busy trying to plan out other things in my life, my blog took a back seat.

Back in 2016 when I began revamping my blog, I just knew that I was going to take off, monetize, and be the best in the game.  I wanted to take over in my niche—education and lifestyle— and set the internet on fire.  Guess what!! I fail at that.  It’s not because I feel that the blogging market is saturated, I just truly have yet to establish my fool proof systems.  There are a lot of things I’d like to do with my blog—I just need to take some time to refocus my energy on my leads and stick to them.  To be honest I just felt like a lot of the stuff was too gimmicky and I had completed so much “research” I was stressing myself out.  So I have decided to return to just simply being me and telling my stories my way.  Sharing my trials and triumphs and perhaps along the way help someone.

I have to take a second and laugh at myself because back during Christmas break I completed an online Goals Success Coach certification, and I have content I just need to put that content into action.  Back in 2017, I wrote a cute little goal setting book, Brown Sugar Magic as a personal challenge and really truly had no strategic plan on how to market it.  Anyway, since completing that book I have dove into other endeavors and book writing is still calling my name.

See when I published my first book, I began to realize the power of telling my story and being unafraid to face the criticisms of others.  I took a few hits, but my stories from my first book are truly a testament of how far I have come.  Not only did I want to take the world by storm and create a gravitating blog, I also wanted to be set apart as an author.  In an effort to be completely transparent I have had people try to use my words against me as if my story is not mine to tell, personally and professionally.  I am at a point now in my career where I have to level up all the way around in all of my work, because people are taking notice and I have to show up.

Yes, I thought my first two books would fly off of the shelves and be a continuous stream of downloads but I have realized that my inconsistencies in my writing have been my down fall.  So now I have to do everything in my power to extend my buzz and capitalize off of my name and who I am setting myself up to be.

As I am completing my third book, 12 Ways to Survive Your First Year of Teaching, there are some logistics to be laid out as Dr. Williams prepares to shock this time around.  After turning 37, I have wanted to venture out into other things and I’ll be speaking that Teacher’s Self-Care Conference in June and I can’t wait.  I’m in my 11th year of teaching and this by far has been my most difficult year to date.  I’m not motivated and I am sure that that energy is transferring into my delivery, but at this point, it is what it is.  The plan is set in motion, between my books and defining my systems, I have three short years to transition out of teaching and becoming a full-time entrepreneur.

No matter what, at this point, I just have to keep telling my story and demand that people take notice.  I have been saying this over the years and it’s beginning to sink in, “Being me is my super power!”  I try my hand at a lot of different things.  I’m willing to take the risk and try something new because I am not afraid of challenges.  After all I did seek to get a Doctorate in Education for the thrill of seeing if I could actually complete the degree.  It may have taken me five years, but I know that my credentials can not ever be stripped from me.

I have sacrificed so much of my time into fruitless things that I have decided to change the trajectory of my existence.  I will be that woman….every woman…I’ve realized that many people will question your choices in life while they are too afraid to DECIDE which direction their life is going. Success is not determined by the opinions of others, but the self gratifying feeling you get when you DECIDE to LIVE.  I will continue to build my resume and level up in all areas in my life.

~LaTilya Rashon

How To Stop Taking Things Personally

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It has taken me longer to get my blogs up because I have been trying to balance this school term, my business, and my ideas collectively.  That’s part of the reason this blog even came to life because I have victimized myself in creative comparison and been holding myself back instead of taking the bull by the horns and giving my writing everything I got.

Growing up as an only child I spent a lot of time alone and never really truly had to share anything with anyone.  So you can imagine how I easily got picked on for having nice things as a kid, but those nice things were at the expense of my mom’s countless sacrifices.  I now see a lot of my mom in me and I take care of my sons on my single salary and their dad pitches in with them based on their needs.  I never ask him for anything.

Now this is not a blog about all of the nice things.  Instead, I’m sharing with you how I had to develop thick skin and work hard for my successes.  People can be cruel and intentionally set out to hurt your feelings, all the while not knowing that God is increasing your territory.

There are a few words to describe distasteful behaviors of others and that is “hate” and “jealousy”.  See I was the little black girl growing up with good grades, a mother that worked all of the time, but we were living just above the poverty line.  We received food stamps and Lord knows I miss the days of those coupon booklets because now that I have a career, I make too much money to receive any kind of assistance.  That’s that hurt, hurt…LOL!

I never really paid attention to the jobs my mother held other than knowing that I did not want to have to work as hard.  She at some point in her many jobs was a restaurant worker, nursing home kitchen cook and server, custodial services at a trailer plant, plywood maker, law enforcement, until ultimately getting hurt and now receiving disability.  Now in the face of poverty I did not have it all, but I never misrepresented my mom when I left home.  I always made sure to represent her to the fullest.img_7874

I had to have thick skin because there was no way I was going to let anyone around me know that in actuality my mom and I were struggling.  I did a post on my IG (@latilyarashon) the other day reflecting on the homes we have lived in and boy did that bring back so many memories.  I don’t think many of my more affluent friends know what it’s like to light your gas stove using matches and trying to remember if you turned the eyes off so that there would be no gas leaks.  Or perhaps listening to your mom and her boyfriend tell you the story of snatching a wood rat out of one of the kitchen counter draws that was terrorizing the counter tops.  The look on their faces as they told me horrified me.

I didn’t have the best of everything but my mom made the best of what we had.  There was nothing like sleeping on the floor in the dining room in front of the heater.  Those were the days and some of my best memories ever.  Now as an adult not much really gets to me because so many people don’t know my story.  As I was tweeting earlier this morning I said, “So many of us know what it’s like to be broken and hurt but not enough of us are talking about it.”  If we all could take some of our energy and focus on the positive outcomes we would see a lot of healing.

I’ve decided on the eve of my 37th birthday to remove the tape that holds my wounds together and move less fragile.  I will share more of my story because no one can tell me how I should feel about how I live.  When you know who you are there is nothing anyone can say to you about what you do.

I was scared of criticism because I know what it’s like to be told that you are too much or not good enough.  People think it’s mean to not care about the opinions of others, but that’s exactly what you have to do to keep your mental focus.

Walking away from people and things that serve you no purpose you is how you grow into your destiny.  Don’t let the “hates” get to you.  Yes it’s hurtful when your character is attacked and you’re misunderstood.  But I have to love me more than anyone and know that everybody will not encourage my dreams.  If we continuously walk around needing and wanting acceptance from others we will always take things personally.

We all have a race to run in life and how we run that race determines our personal victories.  I’m just the messenger.  So, stop caring what others think of you as you create your vision.  No two people want the identical things.

Don’t take it personal…Take the bitter with the sweet.

How I Find Balance With My Work

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I took a chance at something that is changing my life and it has nothing to do with money.  Well it indirectly has something to do with money but here goes.

So here’s the back story.  Back in 2012 I signed on with this lady to become a distributor with a company called It Works!  I was gong ho and I just knew that I was going to make a lot of money with this company at 30 years old because in my mind, “Who doesn’t want to lose weight and get fit?”  I was in for a a rude awakening and with little to no training or mentorship, I was lost, so not even three months after I begin I quit.

I’m generally not a quitter, but I had no idea what I was doing and my “upline” was not helpful.  By this time I focused more on finishing school, I had just moved into my house and I was adjusting to my life as single mom.  Divorce had been finalized in September of 2011, so I was a free woman, but I was scared as hell.

Fast forwarding six years, here I am now, 36 and I’m an It Works! Distributor again but with a FAR BETTER team and support system.  The things that my leaders poor into us to keep us motivated is what I needed in 2012.  All I can think about is how might my life been a little different had I stuck with the company?  But I don’t have time to be concerned about that now, I can only make the best of everything I’m currently doing?

But to keep myself organized and not overworked I have implemented a “Pearl List”.  The FIVE things I must do daily in order to reach my goals.

  1. Self-Development:  It is so important to have my time alone with God and communicate with him the desires of my heart.  Reading devotionals and praying keeps me grounded because I know that everything happens is his timing and not mine.  I cannot be selfish in my efforts.  Through praying and affirmations I know that there is a time and place for everything, so I’m running my own race, keeping God first and being realistic about my success.
  2. Messaging:  In network marketing I contact anywhere from 30-50 people daily or I at least try to.  I follow up with potential customers that have interacted with me on social media to gauge their interest and open up the lines of communication.  I will be met with some no’s and disinterest, and I understand that I may even be blocked or ignored.  But that does not deter me because failure is a display that I am trying.  People are paying attention and pretty soon that NO will turn into a YES.  I’m very OPTIMISTIC.
  3. Intentional Posting:  I try to start my day off with inspiration and affirmation.  I know that no one is going to believe in me more that me and even though I have support from others, I have to be PUMPED every single day to handle ALL of my tasks at hand—school, business, and personal. I share opportunities to try any of my 40+ plant-based products and even showcase the blessing of being able to work from home when I feel like it.  I grasp the concept that what ever I put into my business, with God’s blessings it will be returned to me.  I intend to reap what I sow. And lastly, my children are my why and my push.  So I always talk about the highlights of my life and my children because they keep me grounded.  I’m a business woman, but I VERY grounded.
  4. Networks:  I try to keep my content reel in my Facebook (@LaTilyaWilliams and @tilyarealeyes) updated because sometimes people just like simple pictures, quick stories, questions, and polls.  I can’t lie…my stories be LIT!!!! I do the same for my IG (@docwilliams81 and @tilyarealeyes).  I know, I know 4 accounts…absolutely and once you visit them all you’ll understand why.  I’m also trying to figure out Captivate…so pray for me saints…LOL!
  5. Expand:  I will send a friend request with the quickness.  I can’t lie though I was apprehensive at first but with the guidance of my business mentor, she said, “Add them, expand your network because that give you more exposure”.  She was right and as my numbers continue to grow I am excited about the things that are to come.

I have labeled this time in my life as my season of yes because I feel really good about what’s going with my blogs, book projects, and business.  I am relying on…

  • my experiences because I’m willing to share my missteps and what works for me
  • my patience because I’ve learned that hastened moves and immediacy can ruin me when not well thought out
  • my ability to model and be an example so that people see that I am reliable and can be trusted.

I leaped back into the business and the good in my life is being returned to me.  I have heard and will continue to say since I heard this… Your season has nothing to do with a set day, time, or age.  When it is your time the opportunity will knock.  Ready or not you have to decide to trust his will or your own.

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I Will Sit, Wait, and Be Silent

I have been on an unapologetic tour and living my life my way because I never want to feel boxed in by anyone’s expectations or opinions of me.  I am taking moments on the regular to embrace my current status and put myself first in all of my thought processes.  I have had to learn how to be my own hero and not depend on anyone who was truly not going to be here for me.  My renewed sense of self rears its pretty head as I wake up each day fully rested from the night before because I am in control of my existence.

I have a very strong prayer life and rarely do I share my closest thoughts with anyone because not everyone will be empathetic to your personal pains.  I myself am an empath…the people in my life that I care an extreme amount about capture a part of my being that renders me incapable of ignoring their shifts and storms.  I am a good listener and however abrasive I am at times, my friends know that I wouldn’t tell them what they want to hear just to appease their feelings.

See, at the onset of 2018 I had a lot of questions swimming in my head that made me adjust how I deal with confusion and then deal with the person causing the confusion.  My brother says I’m a logical person that analyzes everything and that the way my brain works it makes abnormal.  I accept that because I say it clearly whenever I am asked, “What is it about me?”  I just simply say that I am DIFFERENT!

When I take a moment to pause everything that I need to see becomes visible.  Everything that I need to hear is being said.  And everything that I need to let go of is released because under all of this confidence is a woman that has felt unimaginable hurt that I have buried deeply inside of me because I’m not defined by those things.  Not to sound like a cliche but yes everything happens for a reason.  Discernment is a blessing when you recognize it as your gift.

I know things will come about in my life that will alter my views and challenge my thoughts and ultimately continue to push me forward.  So as I live for the moment completely unaware of what is to come next, I will sit, wait, and listen.

Sitting Pretty: Sitting does not mean I will become a hermit and not enjoy all that life has to offer.  It means that I will sit still and not move too fast on anything too soon.  Like for instance, I went on a couple dates with this one guy and though he was nice—our ideas and thoughts were not in line with each other.  I knew that I was not in the same mindset and the conversation of building with someone (a year post divorce) was not the life I’m envisioning for myself at the moment.  I want to take some time to get know me, explore my creativity, push myself to the limit, and see how far my goals and aspirations will take me.  Yes, I know I’ve done a lot already but I want more for myself.  I’m in a season of selfishness and I cannot afford to be distracted by things that do not feed my drive.   As I am sitting, I am watching and taking a lot in on a daily basis.  When it is time to purge, I will be at a place in my life where all the pieces make sense and I will have elevated my existence… mind, body, and spirit.  Until then I will sit!

Waiting Patiently:  I am not waiting for a night in shining amour.  I am waiting for my mind to slow down and not feel like everything has to happen immediately. No Rush! This second quarter of this new year is showing me a lot because as I slow down and take inventory of myself, I am becoming more appreciative of my time.  I was asked by my students where all did I attend college and after I rambled off my 16 years of enrollments and degrees conferred, I smiled on the inside.  I have worked tirelessly towards my credentials, my career, being a great mom, and maintaining relationships (significant others, friends, and family) that I’m burned out.  I’m burned out from the nonreciprocal effort as I reclaim my peace of mind and focus on myself.  The only people that come before me are my children because they depend on me to take care of them.  I knew the day would come that I would slow down just a little bit to enjoy all that I have accomplished.  I will wait in the balance of this life that I live and strengthen my mind…

Being Silent: I woke up one day about two weeks ago and decided that I was not going to speak on certain things.  That didn’t mean that I was not going to talk, it just meant that my conversation had to be guarded a little bit more because oversharing begins to sound redundant.  Again in casual conversation with my brother I shared my thoughts on a bothersome situation and while he sympathetically listened, I realized sometimes that’s all I need.  Telling someone how you feel all of the time is not warranted and actually isolates you in those feeling from time to time.  I thought at some point in my life I had to be open with the ones I cared about as an expression of my loyalty to them so they’d know in turn that I would always be there for them.  Turns out…some people can’t handle your feelings and are confused about you at the same time.  In my silence, I didn’t shut down, I just pulled back and decided I would speak on what is presented to me and not what I thought I should say.  I received two phone calls as a result of my intention, my bestfriend and a dear friend.  The in-depth conversations that were had provided clarity and peace that was welcomed for both them and myself.  I have continued to be silent and prayerful for those two because the love and concern for them is real.

April has been a month of personal reflection and this has been what I’ve needed.  I shifted from the business branding and blogging to focus on what is real in my life right now.  I’m not conflicted nor am I lonely. I am surrounded by love and appreciation.  I sit, I wait, and I listen, taking time for me as I continue my journey into self-care.

Thanks for reading…

I’m In Your Chest

*Very Personal but Much Needed Post For Myself*

On the year mark of my divorce *March 27th* I took to my FB and exposed my heart.  It garnered almost a couple of hundred likes and I realized even more so that people like transparency and authenticity.  I was not seeking to bash anyone.  I was not making a comparison of my marriages, I was simply saying that this is where I am at in this stage of my life.

I brand myself as a writer daily.  I share my thoughts.  I rethink moments of my past and reflect on the good and the bad.  I recognize my strength that I am often reminded of by other people and I grow stronger.

But every now and then there is someone on the sideline pressed by my life and try to find reasons to dig into it which only makes me go deeper into who I am.  The questions begin to rise and I find myself here being an open book due to inquiry.

Questions:

“Who is she to you?”

“Why don’t she write about love anymore?”

“Do you still talk to her?”

“Are you involved with her?”

“Where did she come from?”

“Why is she in your life?”

“What makes you tick?”

“Why are you so inspired?”

“Who is she trying to be?”

“Who is she trying to fool?”

“Why does she think she’s so important?”

That list could go on for days but my only question back and I have to say thanks to Cardi B. for this one, but

WHY DOES MY LIFE UPSET YOUR WHOLE CHEST?

All I want to do is produce dope content, write books, and expand my reach.  My education and work experience will only take me so far within the realm of doing things the right way.  However, at times there is a need to be unorthodox and draw attention because I’m letting you know I’m real.

A while ago on my blog I talked about people trying to use your life against you.  Well yes there was this one time way back in 2009 I got arrested and spent one night in jail.  That mugshot is deplorable but after “Happy Hour” with my sorors to celebrate the end of my first year of teaching and then later on some live music, that was an EPIC night in my life.  My arrest is no secret, it’s a matter of public record which I went through the process of getting expunged.  It has not hurt my career or serve as a shameful moment.  It serves as a teachable moment because I have never lost my shit again in such a way that it would be detrimental to my career.

I have written about religion, relationships, love, teaching, and anything that moves me at the moment.  I’ve experimented with my blog to see what engages my audience and every time I am completely uncensored I get an out pour of support to “Keep Doing Me”.

I’m a topic of discussion often because people wonder how I do it.  I face it!  I face all of it!  That’s how I do it. There’s no secret to winning at life you just have to keep living.

So to answer the questions… I am who I am unapologetically.  I have connections with people that transcend superficial attachments because I’m unafraid to live out loud.  My living out loud may be different and difficult for people to understand and the love people give me is not to be understood by anyone but me.

So yes in this next quarter of 2018 I plan to be in your chest!  I’m allowed to switch up my style and approach whenever I choose.  I don’t have to write about love to know that I am loved and I don’t have to defend who I am.

My blog and your interest speaks for itself.

I am LaTilya Rashon continuing to Live, Reflect, Write, and Learn<3

 

How To Be The Best Version Of Yourself

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I have to challenge myself to blog more consistently but most importantly put out content that is engaging and thought provoking.  There is nothing like working on being consistent and letting ideas build up in your mind before escaping to the keyboard.

There was something holding me back because I felt a spirit of doom around me for the greater part of 2017.  I was in a rut.  Now don’t get me wrong I still produced some content but the mindset around what I was writing was more fluff than substance. I needed to rethink my strategy, my purpose, and ultimately decided I needed to change my narrative.

How can I be productive if I’m not operating in my true capacity of creativity?  How can I be better at what I do and what I create if I’m not taking the time to inventory my surroundings and remove what is not benefiting me. Even when I began eliminating things and people out of life, I felt stuck.  I had to do something.

The first thing I decided to do was feed my soul.  It’s not about going to church and becoming super religious, I simply began to tell myself yes while telling others no.  As an individual you cannot give so much of yourself to others because then you will have nothing left inside.  I often think that I could be doing more with my time, but the reality is that I extend myself and when I’m feeling the stress of overextending myself, I feel my internal shelf begin to crack.  Feeding my soul has resulted in selectively turning down invitations for outings and not participating due to my level of discomfort.  Working through my disappointments and accepting that life is often interrupted. I began to rely more on my intuition to guide me.  I admit to myself when I am not okay.  I process my feelings around not being okay, and once I deal with my emotions I resurface and continue to live my life.

I have become more in touch with my own vibrations that I have taken things a step further to recognize who is for me and genuinely wants to be in my life without making excuses for their periodic absences (GHOSTING as it is now called).  I am guilty of wanting something so badly to point of distraction, but being caught up in the rapture of the unfamiliar sends you swinging.  I have had to listen to how my mind vibrates in conversations, how my body reacts to the day to day grind of living, and the calmness of my soul when I speak and immerse myself into my surroundings.

So my advice to you on becoming a better version of yourself means that you have to let go of the control and push through life organically.  It is hard to shake things off that make you tick both in a good and bad way, but the shake-up is necessary.  I needed a cleansing of my spirit so I jumped out of my comfort zone and it’s a battle each day.

Another step I took into changing my narrative has been listening to how I self-talk and encourage myself.  How you speak to yourself reminds you of who you are and pushes you to where you want to be.

I put it out into the atmosphere that I was letting go!  Letting go of the hurt and walking away from things that no longer feed my soul.  At some of my lowest points I have felt bogged down by embarrassment and bad choices.  The spirit of defeat was surrounding me.  Some of the bad things that I have endured in my life were not my choices, but I was on the back end of mistreatment.  So I made up in my mind that in order to flourish, I decided to not be a victim of my circumstances.  The reality is that everyone does not have the same heart as you, so you have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of anyone else.  Sadly, everyone is going to hurt you and give you conflicting memories in your life, but the same people that hurt you play an intricate role in your development and identity.

Every since I have made the decision to inhale positivity and embrace the unknown, I find my spirit lighter.  I even did a ceremonial smudging of my home.  I had always heard that sage and meditation clears the atmosphere of impurities  so I began speaking that into the atmosphere which prompted a really great friend of mine to send me a ceremonial kit.  See even in the small things I am grateful because she did not have to do it, but like minded spirits communicate near and far.

In life you will not have all of the answers.  In life you will continue to make mistakes that alter your perceptions, but you will continue to live and grow through those choices.  There is no formula to being the best version of yourself other than to wake up each day and decide you are going to better than you were the day before.

You only have one life to live.  This is not an ode to YOLO (You Only Live Once) but present moment reality check.  The best version of you is right around the corner so surround yourself with ideas and people that feed your spirit, encourage your growth, and create the life you want to live.

There are risks involved in everything that you do so take care of your inner-self and watch how changing your thought process begin to flourish in the way that you live.  I am operating in the best version of myself and want to encourage others to do the same.

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A Major Shift is Coming

cropped-photo-1430165558479-de3cf8cf14782.jpegIt takes some trial and error to figure out your path and while I might not have it all figured out, my vision is becoming clearer.

Balancing my busy life and my docile moments has been eye-opening for 2017 which is why I have to come stronger, bigger, and better in 2018.  I was ambitious coming into this year and guess what happened… I got divorced and fell in love at the same time.

The divorce fueled a passion inside of me to love in spite of the harsh realities of people not being true to who they say they are.  Falling for someone new ignited my passion to live and just go with the experiences that were presented before me.  But now I must refocus my energy on my purpose and passion for writing and creating the life I want to live.

This is my year in review and as I prepare for 2018 I want all of my wonderful followers and supporters to be prepared for the upcoming changes to http://www.tilyarealeyes.com

Some of your favorite blogs will still be here but I have to tailor my writing to what I aspire to have.  I didn’t name my publishing PSB2 for nothing, so it is time for me to push myself to next level and push out some content that going to make your ears pop.

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My focus going into my next year is simple:

  1. Blogging and Youtube:  The revamp of What No One Tells You About Blogging is about to be epic. I’m still going to tackle the Experts, Services, Social Media, and the fact that it is not easy…as I’m still chugging along on this journey.  I’m turning 36 in a few days and I have a timeline to reach by the age of 40 so boom you have it!  Bigger and Better in 2018!
  2. Books and More: I am proud of my two self-published titles My Fourth Year in Middle School: The Truth About Teaching and Brown Sugar Magic but I now realize that I have to just put myself out there, write the stories, and find my audience.  There is room for everybody and I going for my piece of the pie.  I’m diving into something new and I’m excited.  Exit planning starting now!
  3. Writing Services: Since graduating I have been doing somer freelance academic editing so I’m stepping out on faith to do more of this in the months and years to come.  This is all trial an error and I feel that since my Chair and Committee member have minimal feedback for me, let me help others reach their academic writing goals.  PSB2 Document Processing services to be provided include:
    • Formatting thesis/dissertation/paper/manuscript to University requirements
    • Typing thesis/dissertation/paper/manuscript (including format and edit);
    • Editing thesis/dissertation/paper/manuscript for grammar, punctuation, and spelling as requested;
    • Corrections to thesis/dissertation/paper/manuscript as needed
    • ALL SERVICES RENDERED ARE CLIENT CENTERED

I’m spreading my wings and hoping to build a stronger network.  That is probably one of my weakest areas and while I have joined many boards and follow other #blkcreatives, I’ll continue to research until it all comes together.  My niche is embedded in education and writing and while I have tried to run from that, I know that my service is to help others in that area.

I’ve set some goals for 2018 and dammit I am going to smash them out.  Thank you for coming along for the ride and being patient with me as I work on the back end.  Greater is coming for LaTilya Rashon and be on the look out for Live, Reflect, Write, Learn: The Journey to Here.

 

xoxo

LaTilya Rashon

 

Sometimes in September

 

nineThe month of September symbolizes so many different things for me that it is hard to put it all to rest in my heart because for years there has always been a battle that I had to face either with someone or alone.

September is the fall back month when I sit back and reflect about some of the shit I’ve been through then have to remind myself to push forward.  This will be an emotional read because Sometimes in September I am reminded of being choked and told “Bitch I’ll kill you…” at the same time.  That’s just something you never quite get over.  You try to block it out but the very thought of a man revving his hand back at you like he’s about to hit sends your blood boiling.

Even as the years pass on, by this particular time of year I’m so busy that I don’t have time to wallow in self pity.  I have to push forward and try to forget all of the things that have happened over the years of Septembers tried to wreck my inner peace.

So sometimes leading into fall the internal conflict I feel rears its ugly head and I have to find the strength to press forward even when I don’t want to.  I have to remember that my sons depend on me, and they have often said “Mommy you are strong you can handle anything.”

If these walls could talk, all of the Septembers throughout the years would tell you my secrets, my trials but more importantly tell you my triumphs.  My journey to here… being the woman I am is no easy feat.

Rightfully themed, Sometimes in September, a relatively short month, tests my character year after year as I enter a rebirth and rejuvenation of self deciding some shit just ain’t worth putting up with.

I’ve gone to court in September. I’ve had a divorce decreed in September.  I’ve found out I’ve been cheated on in the past, in the month of September. I have been lied to and told that you’re my soulmate in September and we can married tomorrow.  I’ve been left hanging in the balance in September.  And in all of my Septembers I’ve been reminded of my discipline, authenticity, and perseverance.  Because I simply cannot show my weakness.

I’ve been chastised for being an open book.  Told that I reveal too much.  I’ve been reminded of my truths in September and I remember every single person who said, “I’ll always be there.”

This ninth month of the year represents change.  A change in season.  A change attitude. In some cultures it the number representing “long-lasting”.  One of my close girlfriends said to me, “Look at how many Septembers you have survived.”

The number nine and September is my number of patience.  There is a reason for everything.  It has all been a test.  Divine completeness.  The fruits of the spirit. The number nine is powerful to me because I am always tested at this time.

I said it a few months ago and I’ll say again it, “Being a diamond in the rough, perfectly imperfect, and vulnerable is the true essence of your beauty.”  Just today as I felt things fall off of my internal shelf, I recognized that I’m not shattered but beautifully blemished and genuinely unique.

I find my truth in every situation I experience and overcome.  I am a bit of an enigma.  I face the realities of life and accept that my path was predetermined a long time ago.

Live, write, reflect, and learn.  I practice what I preach, too bad not enough people do the same.

Short and sweet… just like the month of September…