People often ask me how am I able to do so much and never get tired? It’s not that I don’t get tired, I just know that there are some things I simply just want to do in my life and I have to make things happen.
All of my life I kept journals, I wrote things down, and would often revisit those list to see if I have been able to check things off of my list. I have a list of accomplishments from military service to achieving advanced degrees. All of this would not be possible if I had not set down and continuously updated my goals.
I have felt overwhelmed and paralyzed by fear so I realigned my goals? I took time to identify my strengths to take control of my life and push pass my fears?
I want to coach others to do the same and together we will do the work to help you recognize your self-worth, prioritize your goals, and speak life into your aspirations. It is important to LOVE yourself intensely, create opportunities for growth, and step into your purpose with authority.
Working with me will help you gain:
1. Clarity as you position yourself for greatness.
2. Love for yourself through affirmations.
3. Purpose as you set attainable goals.
4. Understanding as you reflect on your life.
5. Sense of self as you CELEBRATE you!
“Closer to Purpose Than You Think” is my 30 day self-paced success guide that will be available August 1, 2019. I cannot wait for you to unlock your magic.
So last month in June I did a thing…I spoke at a conference for the first time and I will have the opportunity to speak at the Total Belle Royal Retreat this month and I’m so excited.
For the past four weeks I have been doing “Motivation Monday” on my FB Live and IG (@latilyarashon) because I find that while people are following others on social media, there is disingenuous interest in creativity. People are looking beyond the message and offering unsolicited criticisms about things not even associated with a persons vision and brand.
I felt triggered in a conversation one day and it spawned three thoughts in my mind that some people need to hear. Let’s just face it, if we spend so much time focusing on the mistakes of others there is truly something wrong with you individually on the inside.
First of all, stop letting people play in your face with their backhanded compliments. There is no sincerity in being fake. People will watch you long enough to figure out how to tear you down. Don’t let people trick you into thinking they have your back. The truth is unless they are “like-minded” as you, looking out for yourself is your best bet.
Secondly, in this new month of discovery and endeavors, you have to Be Diligent in everything you set out to do. It takes planning and commitment to get to the next level. In the process of planning, you have to be willing to learn something new daily and make sacrifices of your time. As you are working, be sure to research but don’t try to implement everything that you come across. You will wind up overwhelming yourself and stopping before you ever get started. So in your research, keep what you need and use it, but toss information that you find to be not helpful.
Lastly, Figure It Out! There is no blueprint or shortcut to you reaching your next level of success. Learn what you can and set your own timeline. There is no rush. Create your content, write your business plans, develop your marketing strategy, and most importantly…Be Yourself!
I have rebooted my drive monthly as a self-published author and I continue to nervously step out of my comfort zone. I’m doing what I can and I’m keeping people out of my face. LOL!
LaTilya grew up loving to write and share her talents with her family and friends. In school she was often questioned about her writing style and realized that she had a unique approach to expressing her ideas. As she was completing her doctoral studies and birthing the idea of her first book, she realized that with some refinements, all things are possible.
PSB2 Publishing is LaTilya’s independent publishing company named as a tribute to her sons (Phillip Steven and Preston Sahir Bird). She desires to leave a legacy for them to hold in high esteem as she works hard to build the company and her authentic brand.
In her day to day career, the author and creator of PSB2 Publishing is a full-time public school educator that takes time to focus on teacher mentorship and the help that is needed to sustain quality educators in the field. She is set to release her second book, 12 Ways To Survive Your First Year of Teaching .
In this second book of educational revelations and real world approach, the author examines the frustrations of teaching and bridges the gap between experienced and new teachers to create a common ground for growth. The lighthearted approach to standard teaching practices creates a conversation needed as teacher turnover rates increase by the year, getting to the root of difficult truths of educational expectations, and the weight teachers carry as they shape the minds of the future.
LaTilya released her debut self-published book titled, My Fourth Year in Middle School: The Truth About Teaching July 2016. Her debut book richly recalls the obstacles she faced teaching at-risk, African-American youth at a southern middle school for eight years. This book centers around her experiences and lessons learned transitioning from active duty military service to becoming a professional classroom teacher.
It has truly been a learning experience as she ventures into the educational niche and start conversation about teacher mentoring and retention. Please take the time to read her books and leave a glowing review. Be a friend and share with aspiring educators.
I have decided to be more fearless of the pursuit of the things I want and eliminate fear. I updated my book’s cover, “My Fourth Year in Middle School: The Truth About Teaching” as I am preparing to present later this month at the Teacher Self-Care Conference.
It is my first time presenting at a conference and I’m super excited. So visit Amazon and download your copy to day. I have a new surprise on the way as well.
I was not born with a silver spoon in my mouth so everything I got in life has been because I’ve worked hard for it. Growing up in a single parent home the odds were stacked against me. If society had it’s way I would have been another statistic as a teenager; teenage mother, living off of government assistance, and quite possibly a high school dropout. My mother was not having that for me at all. I knew my father but he was not an active part of my life, so watching my mother work various jobs to always provide for me was the best example of hustle and heart.
We lived in the family house until I was four and starting
head start. We moved across the street
to Fort Bailey housing projects. Walking
to the store for a bag of pink cookies and a cream Ritz soda was a treat, now I
live for my crab legs and moscato…LOL! I
was a project kid, with a key at the age of five letting myself into the house
each day by myself then waiting for my mom to get home. Life was sweet in the 80s. Now it’s not that easy to leave kids home
alone because too much can happen with predators lurking at every turn.
I grew up being very independent and doing a lot of things
for myself because the fact is I spent a lot of time by myself. My mom worked and that was understandable, so
throughout middle and high school, during my mom’s off time we spend time together,
then when she was gone, I’d read a book or watch t.v. So by the time I graduated high school in
2000 having worked at Wendy’s and Shoney’s I could make a little money for
myself but in the back of my mind I always wanted to just write.
I went off to college to the University of Florida and partied
my life away. I was introduced to
beloved Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc., met some amazing people but ultimately
blew it. I joined the United States Air
Force in 2001, lived in New Jersey my entire enlistment, got deployed to Bulgaria
and Italy, got married, had my two sons, then separated from active duty status
in 2007. My background had set the tone
as I share my story because it was not easy being active duty, married, tending
to babies, and pursuing my studies all at the same time. I was very overwhelmed and emotional a lot of
times but I pushed through anyways.
By the time I relocated to middle Georgia, I had acquired 3 degrees and had multiple ideas of starting a women’s magazine, writing a book, short stories, or just something creative because I have always had the passion to write. By the time I began teaching in 2008, I was halfway through my Masters in Public Administration program and still had no idea what I was going to do next. But the yearning for more was peeking over my shoulder and in my subconscious. I kept digging until I outlined my first nonfiction title. In 2013 I said to myself that my book was going to be great and everyone would want to read it… Well that didn’t happen. See I wanted more but I didn’t have a plan. Now the plan is for me to TELL MY STORY, so people really get a true idea of who I am, what I represent, and what I’m all about. I defied the odds and I have a story to tell.
Achieving my advanced degree in 2016, my Doctorate of
Education in Higher Education Leadership was personal. It was a checkmark to be place of my list of
life goals and accomplishments. There
have been others that did it younger than me, but see at the age of 34 with two
kids, a second marriage, six years of honorable military service and eight
years of teaching, I was doing damn good for myself. So where is my POP?! When things got rocky and I thought I had a
clear vision of what I want to have happen, a second divorce happened on
2017. I wasn’t devastated, but I was
derailed so my goals for pursuing speaking and writing more took a backseat.
Now here I am 11 years into teaching, having taught roughly
2000 students, each year I wonder who will or who has been that one? I have highlighted some of my most memorable
students in My Fourth Year, but beyond that when students come into my room to
hug me midway through a lesson, or stop by my door during transition to class
it has been too many to count or name.
My colleagues are hit or miss, but some of them know where my heart
is. I simply refuse to give up on my
population of students, but good God some days it is hard.
When I look at my mixed career I have done a lot and take a stand for individuality. I’m often confused and people like to put other people in a box and you shouldn’t. Creativity is an extension of who a person is and you have to tap into your greatness better than anyone else can and tell your story.
Be vulnerable because someone needs to hear from you.
I have been taking some time to revamp and restyle my blog after dibbling and dabbling into some other entrepreneur endeavors. It is always necessary to reexamine your business and make adjustments because new risks, obstacles, and changes occur that redirect your focus. The vision does not change just the approach to reaching your destination. The next few things that I do have to be done in order to propel me to my next level.
1. I must push through and be unafraid to tell my story because the more I share my experiences the more impactful I become. I have found myself holding back at times because it gets tiresome. People are judgmental and question what they do not understand and jump to conclusions without hearing people speak their truth. In the creative industry, sparingly sharing your truth and your story will be met with reservations. However, I know in order to take my career to the next level, consistently telling my story is a must. I have to put myself out there, because there are some people waiting on me and watching me, so I have to make. I am ready for the shift to happen as I continue to step more and more into who I am business wise and woman.
2. Discipline…Authenticity…Perseverance are my mainstay because I know what it takes to govern myself and push through to the next level. I thrive off of discipline in certain areas of my life because I need order. I have to have structure in my ventures because without it I feel unproductive. I have rich background in life, from college, the military, transitioning careers, and being an entrepreneur. I am staying true to me because there is no other person I’d rather be. It takes gumption to press forward, when so many things around you change. Some people have an “S” on their chest, but I’ll take the “P” for persevering through things that were designed to tear me down.
3. Being true to your ideas will show you who is for you and who is against you. My support has not come from the people closest to me. I felt slighted at first because I did not understand why people would not want to see me do well. It is a cruel world when you want better and you feel like you are begging for people to support you. Going into business for myself be it, part-time or full-time some days are better than others and this is truly a process. My second stint with MLM/Direct Sales showed me enough to know that was my final time. People don’t respect or value your time, so eventually you have to learn who is serious and who is not.
4. I truly admire everyone in their winning season because when you are diligent your work begins to pay off for you. After three years of soul searching and releasing my book, My Fourth Year in Middle School: The Truth About Teaching, I am stepping into the presentation opportunity at the Teacher Self-Care Conference. This is new for me, and as the time is winding down, closer to it, I just have to do it! I’m also finishing up my book in the process, “12 Ways to Survive Your First Year of Teaching”. I’m pleased with the work that I am doing behind the scenes, and I have taken a lot or pressure off of myself.
5. It is okay to start over as often as needed. Some things we try work well initially and we think we have it all figured out, then we realize that we have to revamp in order to paint a clearer image. I have to evolve and move with the time as I watch the trends around entrepreneurship, upgrading your presence in your chosen industry, and stepping out on faith to be yourself unapologetically. Our ideas never leave us, they continue to grow as we find ways to expand beyond our comfort zone and intentionally choose to shift into your greater self. We get stagnant when we don’t get what we want immediately. Instant gratification is not always the best. Delayed gratification is more beneficial because you have to work for what you want that way you are grateful when things work in your favor.
I am really late with this update and post but I have been so busy trying to plan out other things in my life, my blog took a back seat.
Back in 2016 when I began revamping my blog, I just knew that I was going to take off, monetize, and be the best in the game. I wanted to take over in my niche—education and lifestyle— and set the internet on fire. Guess what!! I fail at that. It’s not because I feel that the blogging market is saturated, I just truly have yet to establish my fool proof systems. There are a lot of things I’d like to do with my blog—I just need to take some time to refocus my energy on my leads and stick to them. To be honest I just felt like a lot of the stuff was too gimmicky and I had completed so much “research” I was stressing myself out. So I have decided to return to just simply being me and telling my stories my way. Sharing my trials and triumphs and perhaps along the way help someone.
I have to take a second and laugh at myself because back during Christmas break I completed an online Goals Success Coach certification, and I have content I just need to put that content into action. Back in 2017, I wrote a cute little goal setting book, Brown Sugar Magic as a personal challenge and really truly had no strategic plan on how to market it. Anyway, since completing that book I have dove into other endeavors and book writing is still calling my name.
See when I published my first book, I began to realize the power of telling my story and being unafraid to face the criticisms of others. I took a few hits, but my stories from my first book are truly a testament of how far I have come. Not only did I want to take the world by storm and create a gravitating blog, I also wanted to be set apart as an author. In an effort to be completely transparent I have had people try to use my words against me as if my story is not mine to tell, personally and professionally. I am at a point now in my career where I have to level up all the way around in all of my work, because people are taking notice and I have to show up.
Yes, I thought my first two books would fly off of the shelves and be a continuous stream of downloads but I have realized that my inconsistencies in my writing have been my down fall. So now I have to do everything in my power to extend my buzz and capitalize off of my name and who I am setting myself up to be.
As I am completing my third book, 12 Ways to Survive Your First Year of Teaching, there are some logistics to be laid out as Dr. Williams prepares to shock this time around. After turning 37, I have wanted to venture out into other things and I’ll be speaking that Teacher’s Self-Care Conference in June and I can’t wait. I’m in my 11th year of teaching and this by far has been my most difficult year to date. I’m not motivated and I am sure that that energy is transferring into my delivery, but at this point, it is what it is. The plan is set in motion, between my books and defining my systems, I have three short years to transition out of teaching and becoming a full-time entrepreneur.
No matter what, at this point, I just have to keep telling my story and demand that people take notice. I have been saying this over the years and it’s beginning to sink in, “Being me is my super power!” I try my hand at a lot of different things. I’m willing to take the risk and try something new because I am not afraid of challenges. After all I did seek to get a Doctorate in Education for the thrill of seeing if I could actually complete the degree. It may have taken me five years, but I know that my credentials can not ever be stripped from me.
I have sacrificed so much of my time into fruitless things that I have decided to change the trajectory of my existence. I will be that woman….every woman…I’ve realized that many people will question your choices in life while they are too afraid to DECIDE which direction their life is going. Success is not determined by the opinions of others, but the self gratifying feeling you get when you DECIDE to LIVE. I will continue to build my resume and level up in all areas in my life.
It has taken me longer to get my blogs up because I have been trying to balance this school term, my business, and my ideas collectively. That’s part of the reason this blog even came to life because I have victimized myself in creative comparison and been holding myself back instead of taking the bull by the horns and giving my writing everything I got.
Growing up as an only child I spent a lot of time alone and never really truly had to share anything with anyone. So you can imagine how I easily got picked on for having nice things as a kid, but those nice things were at the expense of my mom’s countless sacrifices. I now see a lot of my mom in me and I take care of my sons on my single salary and their dad pitches in with them based on their needs. I never ask him for anything.
Now this is not a blog about all of the nice things. Instead, I’m sharing with you how I had to develop thick skin and work hard for my successes. People can be cruel and intentionally set out to hurt your feelings, all the while not knowing that God is increasing your territory.
There are a few words to describe distasteful behaviors of others and that is “hate” and “jealousy”. See I was the little black girl growing up with good grades, a mother that worked all of the time, but we were living just above the poverty line. We received food stamps and Lord knows I miss the days of those coupon booklets because now that I have a career, I make too much money to receive any kind of assistance. That’s that hurt, hurt…LOL!
I never really paid attention to the jobs my mother held other than knowing that I did not want to have to work as hard. She at some point in her many jobs was a restaurant worker, nursing home kitchen cook and server, custodial services at a trailer plant, plywood maker, law enforcement, until ultimately getting hurt and now receiving disability. Now in the face of poverty I did not have it all, but I never misrepresented my mom when I left home. I always made sure to represent her to the fullest.
I had to have thick skin because there was no way I was going to let anyone around me know that in actuality my mom and I were struggling. I did a post on my IG (@latilyarashon) the other day reflecting on the homes we have lived in and boy did that bring back so many memories. I don’t think many of my more affluent friends know what it’s like to light your gas stove using matches and trying to remember if you turned the eyes off so that there would be no gas leaks. Or perhaps listening to your mom and her boyfriend tell you the story of snatching a wood rat out of one of the kitchen counter draws that was terrorizing the counter tops. The look on their faces as they told me horrified me.
I didn’t have the best of everything but my mom made the best of what we had. There was nothing like sleeping on the floor in the dining room in front of the heater. Those were the days and some of my best memories ever. Now as an adult not much really gets to me because so many people don’t know my story. As I was tweeting earlier this morning I said, “So many of us know what it’s like to be broken and hurt but not enough of us are talking about it.” If we all could take some of our energy and focus on the positive outcomes we would see a lot of healing.
I’ve decided on the eve of my 37th birthday to remove the tape that holds my wounds together and move less fragile. I will share more of my story because no one can tell me how I should feel about how I live. When you know who you are there is nothing anyone can say to you about what you do.
I was scared of criticism because I know what it’s like to be told that you are too much or not good enough. People think it’s mean to not care about the opinions of others, but that’s exactly what you have to do to keep your mental focus.
Walking away from people and things that serve you no purpose you is how you grow into your destiny. Don’t let the “hates” get to you. Yes it’s hurtful when your character is attacked and you’re misunderstood. But I have to love me more than anyone and know that everybody will not encourage my dreams. If we continuously walk around needing and wanting acceptance from others we will always take things personally.
We all have a race to run in life and how we run that race determines our personal victories. I’m just the messenger. So, stop caring what others think of you as you create your vision. No two people want the identical things.
Don’t take it personal…Take the bitter with the sweet.
The many misconceptions about teaching is that the career field is easy. I have written about the 9 Reasons Education is Confusing but right I want to tackle a topic that is close to home, “teacher burnout”. Inside the walls of a school, there are decisions being made that rattle the adults more than the kids and it makes completing your tasks each day extremely difficult. If you ever wondered why teachers throw in the towel to an easily assumed career, this blog discusses the 4 reasons teachers face “burn out”.
Each academic year is started off with a big meeting, “Convocation” in most places where teachers get a pep talk and inspirational thank you’s for their commitment to the school district and profession. Some teachers are engaged in the long, drawn out meeting, some steal away to the restroom midway through the keynote speaker’s address because the formality of convocation is boring, and new teachers take it all in as an exciting experience.
Convocation is the first of many meetings to come. At your school all of these committees and teams are formed, in conjunction with content area meetings, district level professional learning and training, staff meetings, grade level meetings and school-wide professional learning; teachers begin to ask when will they have time to work on content that they were hired to teach. Meetings and micromanagement does not work for teachers that want autonomy of their classroom.
Lack of Support
When problems begin to arise in the school, teachers think back to all of the meetings that have been held about procedures. There are protocols put in place that tells you how to handle situations. But when you see that disturbances are handled on a case by case basis and situational depending on the involved parties, there is a breakdown in how teachers feel supported. When teachers feel that they are not being supported based on what they have been told, more and more teachers walk away from the profession.
Paperwork/Documentation: Teachers and Students
The amount of paperwork that teachers are introduced to makes you wonder what exactly have you signed on to do. The universal screeners, individual education plans, behavior intervention plans, red tabs, discipline trackers, and parent contact logs must be in place to make sure students are receiving the right services required of teachers. But if teachers are negligent in their duties, they are tracked by means of code of ethics violations and personnel files that are kept at the school level, that then can be turned over to the local board of education for termination issues. It is a bit cumbersome to progress monitor behavior issues in a classroom where multiple behavior issues exist, and teachers are drowning in lesson plans and parental contact. One false statement or wrong signature can cause you your livelihood.
Staying in the same place for too long can be detrimental to one’s mindset and causes lack of motivation to stay in the profession. Change is good for anyone, and in this generation of students, the complexities that they face in life are far more different than what educators ever imagined. In at-risk, poverty stricken, low-socioeconomic status populations; homelessness, abuse, death, and previous retention of students consume work environments. Sometimes students have experienced so much, they come to school as a formality just waiting to turn 16 and dropout.
As an educator this is heartbreaking, and witnessing so much tragedy, and seeing the generations of students diminish in talent and respect, you find yourself wanting to do something new. Teachers may not be able to control the environment, but they leave it behind in pursuit of something better.
Ironically, a lot of teachers are taking their skills and transferring them to different fields such as writing books and other entrepreneurial endeavors. I myself am working on my third book on the ways to survive teaching your first year as a newbie. I love what I do, but I’m feeling the burn.
I took a chance at something that is changing my life and it has nothing to do with money. Well it indirectly has something to do with money but here goes.
So here’s the back story. Back in 2012 I signed on with this lady to become a distributor with a company called It Works! I was gong ho and I just knew that I was going to make a lot of money with this company at 30 years old because in my mind, “Who doesn’t want to lose weight and get fit?” I was in for a a rude awakening and with little to no training or mentorship, I was lost, so not even three months after I begin I quit.
I’m generally not a quitter, but I had no idea what I was doing and my “upline” was not helpful. By this time I focused more on finishing school, I had just moved into my house and I was adjusting to my life as single mom. Divorce had been finalized in September of 2011, so I was a free woman, but I was scared as hell.
Fast forwarding six years, here I am now, 36 and I’m an It Works! Distributor again but with a FAR BETTER team and support system. The things that my leaders poor into us to keep us motivated is what I needed in 2012. All I can think about is how might my life been a little different had I stuck with the company? But I don’t have time to be concerned about that now, I can only make the best of everything I’m currently doing?
But to keep myself organized and not overworked I have implemented a “Pearl List”. The FIVE things I must do daily in order to reach my goals.
Self-Development: It is so important to have my time alone with God and communicate with him the desires of my heart. Reading devotionals and praying keeps me grounded because I know that everything happens is his timing and not mine. I cannot be selfish in my efforts. Through praying and affirmations I know that there is a time and place for everything, so I’m running my own race, keeping God first and being realistic about my success.
Messaging: In network marketing I contact anywhere from 30-50 people daily or I at least try to. I follow up with potential customers that have interacted with me on social media to gauge their interest and open up the lines of communication. I will be met with some no’s and disinterest, and I understand that I may even be blocked or ignored. But that does not deter me because failure is a display that I am trying. People are paying attention and pretty soon that NO will turn into a YES. I’m very OPTIMISTIC.
Intentional Posting: I try to start my day off with inspiration and affirmation. I know that no one is going to believe in me more that me and even though I have support from others, I have to be PUMPED every single day to handle ALL of my tasks at hand—school, business, and personal. I share opportunities to try any of my 40+ plant-based products and even showcase the blessing of being able to work from home when I feel like it. I grasp the concept that what ever I put into my business, with God’s blessings it will be returned to me. I intend to reap what I sow. And lastly, my children are my why and my push. So I always talk about the highlights of my life and my children because they keep me grounded. I’m a business woman, but I VERY grounded.
Networks: I try to keep my content reel in my Facebook (@LaTilyaWilliams and @tilyarealeyes) updated because sometimes people just like simple pictures, quick stories, questions, and polls. I can’t lie…my stories be LIT!!!! I do the same for my IG (@docwilliams81 and @tilyarealeyes). I know, I know 4 accounts…absolutely and once you visit them all you’ll understand why. I’m also trying to figure out Captivate…so pray for me saints…LOL!
Expand: I will send a friend request with the quickness. I can’t lie though I was apprehensive at first but with the guidance of my business mentor, she said, “Add them, expand your network because that give you more exposure”. She was right and as my numbers continue to grow I am excited about the things that are to come.
I have labeled this time in my life as my season of yes because I feel really good about what’s going with my blogs, book projects, and business. I am relying on…
my experiences because I’m willing to share my missteps and what works for me
my patience because I’ve learned that hastened moves and immediacy can ruin me when not well thought out
my ability to model and be an example so that people see that I am reliable and can be trusted.
I leaped back into the business and the good in my life is being returned to me. I have heard and will continue to say since I heard this… Your season has nothing to do with a set day, time, or age. When it is your time the opportunity will knock. Ready or not you have to decide to trust his will or your own.