Crazily there are people in this world that want to see you fall. In fact they are counting on it. It is up to you to show them what you’re made of. It’s not easy being a mom trying to keep it all together with tears in your eyes. It’s tough being an author when you’re independent and just out here trusting God. It’s equally difficult being a teacher and pursuing your dreams and you keep trying until you find your groove.
So being a business owner or entrepreneur or whatever you call yourself just make it happen. You have an unofficial fan club that’s watching your every move. Wave 👋🏽 at them through your content and keep shining.
You inspire people that pretend not to see you. Trust Me!
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Be stubborn about your goals but be flexible about your methods. It’s not a race and one day you will reach your destination. I have launched and failed but I haven’t been deterred. It’s a process and your time is coming. Keep the faith, it’s going to happen.
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Perfection is achieved when you feel whole; not when there is nothing else to take away. Success nor failure are final. Your determination and progress is what counts. Define yourself and create the life you want to live.
The goal is to outdo me daily. So I challenge you to do the one thing that scares you and get on the path to design your life. You’re already qualified.
Stay strong. Make them wonder why you are still smiling.I focus a lot of my time and energy on being a mom which author ambition while being in the classroom. That’s already three full time jobs in itself. Now if I make it look easy, trust me it’s not.
Through every transition in my life since separating from active duty Air Force in 2007, the title of being a mom has been staring at me through my rear view. I can’t escape that responsibility. I’m not trying to, I’m just saying.
When I entered the classroom in 2008 my children were toddlers. When I wrote My Fourth Year In Middle School, my sons were a great push for that. When I completed my dissertation, The Impact of Computer Assisted Writing Instruction for Improving Writing Scores for Urban Eighth Grade Students, I said yes mom, I made it, I’m not an expert but that was the turning point. I may have had quality education but very few are checking for the quality of my words so sharing my voice is the only way as I continue to build.
Being a mother with a millionaire mindset is grueling. Someone once said that you very rarely find balance in the things you set out to do, you just have to do it. There’s no wonder people say, I’ll sleep when I’m dead. That’s a dark and twisted thing to say, but I get. We are all grinding for the pending success that’s just on the other side of the roadblock. Delayed is not denied, but sometimes as an entrepreneur you want the gate of opportunity to open up just for you so you can experience the rush of accomplishment beyond the present.
Write the book.
Launch the blog.
Create the online course.
Start the podcast.
Host an event.
Facilitate a workshop.
Have a book signing.
Turn your hobby into a money maker. It’s far more easier to say than to actually do when life happens and your time is limited. We can monetize everything, but when you are a one man team and trying things out, failures knocks twice before success enters. Metaphorically speaking.
I’m the authority of me and my blog and my books are my life. If I managed in between two divorces and two advanced degree programs all while teaching and being a mom to things done. I’m simply saying, you can too!
So last month in June I did a thing…I spoke at a conference for the first time and I will have the opportunity to speak at the Total Belle Royal Retreat this month and I’m so excited.
For the past four weeks I have been doing “Motivation Monday” on my FB Live and IG (@latilyarashon) because I find that while people are following others on social media, there is disingenuous interest in creativity. People are looking beyond the message and offering unsolicited criticisms about things not even associated with a persons vision and brand.
I felt triggered in a conversation one day and it spawned three thoughts in my mind that some people need to hear. Let’s just face it, if we spend so much time focusing on the mistakes of others there is truly something wrong with you individually on the inside.
First of all, stop letting people play in your face with their backhanded compliments. There is no sincerity in being fake. People will watch you long enough to figure out how to tear you down. Don’t let people trick you into thinking they have your back. The truth is unless they are “like-minded” as you, looking out for yourself is your best bet.
Secondly, in this new month of discovery and endeavors, you have to Be Diligent in everything you set out to do. It takes planning and commitment to get to the next level. In the process of planning, you have to be willing to learn something new daily and make sacrifices of your time. As you are working, be sure to research but don’t try to implement everything that you come across. You will wind up overwhelming yourself and stopping before you ever get started. So in your research, keep what you need and use it, but toss information that you find to be not helpful.
Lastly, Figure It Out! There is no blueprint or shortcut to you reaching your next level of success. Learn what you can and set your own timeline. There is no rush. Create your content, write your business plans, develop your marketing strategy, and most importantly…Be Yourself!
I have rebooted my drive monthly as a self-published author and I continue to nervously step out of my comfort zone. I’m doing what I can and I’m keeping people out of my face. LOL!
I took a chance at something that is changing my life and it has nothing to do with money. Well it indirectly has something to do with money but here goes.
So here’s the back story. Back in 2012 I signed on with this lady to become a distributor with a company called It Works! I was gong ho and I just knew that I was going to make a lot of money with this company at 30 years old because in my mind, “Who doesn’t want to lose weight and get fit?” I was in for a a rude awakening and with little to no training or mentorship, I was lost, so not even three months after I begin I quit.
I’m generally not a quitter, but I had no idea what I was doing and my “upline” was not helpful. By this time I focused more on finishing school, I had just moved into my house and I was adjusting to my life as single mom. Divorce had been finalized in September of 2011, so I was a free woman, but I was scared as hell.
Fast forwarding six years, here I am now, 36 and I’m an It Works! Distributor again but with a FAR BETTER team and support system. The things that my leaders poor into us to keep us motivated is what I needed in 2012. All I can think about is how might my life been a little different had I stuck with the company? But I don’t have time to be concerned about that now, I can only make the best of everything I’m currently doing?
But to keep myself organized and not overworked I have implemented a “Pearl List”. The FIVE things I must do daily in order to reach my goals.
Self-Development: It is so important to have my time alone with God and communicate with him the desires of my heart. Reading devotionals and praying keeps me grounded because I know that everything happens is his timing and not mine. I cannot be selfish in my efforts. Through praying and affirmations I know that there is a time and place for everything, so I’m running my own race, keeping God first and being realistic about my success.
Messaging: In network marketing I contact anywhere from 30-50 people daily or I at least try to. I follow up with potential customers that have interacted with me on social media to gauge their interest and open up the lines of communication. I will be met with some no’s and disinterest, and I understand that I may even be blocked or ignored. But that does not deter me because failure is a display that I am trying. People are paying attention and pretty soon that NO will turn into a YES. I’m very OPTIMISTIC.
Intentional Posting: I try to start my day off with inspiration and affirmation. I know that no one is going to believe in me more that me and even though I have support from others, I have to be PUMPED every single day to handle ALL of my tasks at hand—school, business, and personal. I share opportunities to try any of my 40+ plant-based products and even showcase the blessing of being able to work from home when I feel like it. I grasp the concept that what ever I put into my business, with God’s blessings it will be returned to me. I intend to reap what I sow. And lastly, my children are my why and my push. So I always talk about the highlights of my life and my children because they keep me grounded. I’m a business woman, but I VERY grounded.
Networks: I try to keep my content reel in my Facebook (@LaTilyaWilliams and @tilyarealeyes) updated because sometimes people just like simple pictures, quick stories, questions, and polls. I can’t lie…my stories be LIT!!!! I do the same for my IG (@docwilliams81 and @tilyarealeyes). I know, I know 4 accounts…absolutely and once you visit them all you’ll understand why. I’m also trying to figure out Captivate…so pray for me saints…LOL!
Expand: I will send a friend request with the quickness. I can’t lie though I was apprehensive at first but with the guidance of my business mentor, she said, “Add them, expand your network because that give you more exposure”. She was right and as my numbers continue to grow I am excited about the things that are to come.
I have labeled this time in my life as my season of yes because I feel really good about what’s going with my blogs, book projects, and business. I am relying on…
my experiences because I’m willing to share my missteps and what works for me
my patience because I’ve learned that hastened moves and immediacy can ruin me when not well thought out
my ability to model and be an example so that people see that I am reliable and can be trusted.
I leaped back into the business and the good in my life is being returned to me. I have heard and will continue to say since I heard this… Your season has nothing to do with a set day, time, or age. When it is your time the opportunity will knock. Ready or not you have to decide to trust his will or your own.