Perfection is achieved when you feel whole; not when there is nothing else to take away. Success nor failure are final. Your determination and progress is what counts. Define yourself and create the life you want to live.
The goal is to outdo me daily. So I challenge you to do the one thing that scares you and get on the path to design your life. You’re already qualified.
I have been asked how to write books, how to start a blog and my simple response is just to start writing. This is not my first time putting my story into the atmosphere, but this the space that puts the pieces of me together. I had a beloved blogspot but when I decided to step things up a notch back in 2016, I was not clear. I was simply stringing thoughts together and calling it a blog.
It was not until I sat down and outlined my first book that I realized I was diving into territory that was uncomfortable but was my wholehearted truth. I was nervous but I shared the tragic dissolution of my marriage in my first book and that was a huge mountain to get over. See, in my second year of teaching, I had only been separated from the Air Force a little over a year, I was still a new teacher, finishes up my alternative preparation program, and sadly my life was in turmoil. I was separated from husband of six years, and I was completely devastated. In the midst of all of those emotions, I still had to be a mother and figure out what I was doing in the classroom. I cried a lot that year, and simply felt like I had no control over anything in my life at the time.
I felt misunderstood by coworkers and even judged at times. I was completely ostracized from spouse’s family, and the only person I relied heavily the most on was my mother. She struggled with watching me deal with pains of my marriage because it was an pain that she had never experienced. She could’t tell how to fix things or how to navigate through the problems because she had never been married.
I was separated for two years before the divorce was final. We tried briefly to try to reconcile, but one day I asked him, “What are going to do?” He looked at me and said, “I don’t even like the word marriage.” That is when I knew I had to let go, as hard as it was. The reality of that pain is that I survived. Dealing with personal problems outside of your profession surely is a test of wills and each time there is a set back and life gets in the way, you learn how to bounce back. Of course at that time I was 30 years old, finding my voice as a woman and refusing to be treated as less than an equal partner. Now my tolerance for things that aren’t conducive to good vibes, I gladly shy away from.
Sharing my story, my ups and downs have become my survival guide because just when I thought I was ready to give up, my strength takes over. I know that I am strong but sometimes when I’m tired, I want to be able to be vulnerable in the arms of someone that will be my strength when I feel weak. We will lose ourselves many times in life but it’s always worth it to see the pieces get put back together as if they were never touched.
My heart as a mother will not let my children down because everything I do is for them. They make me better. My love for writing as an author gives me the ability to share my trials and triumphs. Some days are better than others, so I focus on the good even when I don’t feel like it. When I am in my classroom, teaching continues to add layers to my life and give me experiences that I would not trade for anything in the world.
The parts of me that make me unique, I gladly share and each time I reflect on my trials and my blessings, I am eternally grateful.
Taking a personal inventory of myself and my skills, I knew that I wanted to do more than ordinary things. Ever since childhood I have had words floating around in my head that I have forced out onto paper over the years. Recently I sat down and faced my business, my approach to book marketing and my journey into entrepreneurship and realized I needed help. Furthermore, I needed to help myself get better positioned and edpreneur.
I base a lot of my writing on education because I began teaching in 2008 when I was over halfway done with my Masters in Public Administration. I had a plan for how my career would go as I completed requirements for my new teacher portfolio for the TAPP program. When MGRESA changed the submission dates for program completion, I was already a month into my Educational Specialist program because I had no traditional training or pedagogy. I set goals early in my teaching career based on where I would be in 3 years, in 5 years, and even 10 years. I met my 5 year goals within 3 so I know the power of manifestation.
By the time I had completed my educational specialist degree in 2010, I was ahead of my 5 year plan. Towards the end of my 4th year of teaching I had the bright idea to pursue my doctorate and from there my idea to write my book was outlined. It was not until 2013 that I put my most memorable experiences onto a word document and I began sifting through the details. I have always been ambitious and in between a divorce in 2011, school transfer in 2013, getting remarried in 2014, and stalling on my dissertation proposal I managed to graduate in 2016 with another degree, Doctor of Education with an emphasis in Higher Education Leadership, while simultaneously self-publishing my book.
Being a mother is my single most important job in my life but offering ebooks online, becoming my own boss, creating helpful content for other moms, teachers and ambitious individuals infusing my passion for writing and helping people together. Through my education, mixed work experiences, skills and training I’m confident that’s reading my books will help with personal development of individuals who struggle with finding balance in their careers and personal lives.
I have journaled and set new goals for myself my whole life and made the necessary adjustments when needed. Being asked was getting my degrees hard, do I like teaching, if I weren’t teaching what would I be doing, and are you going to keep writing is the reason I keep creating.
There’s no one size fit all but I like to think that I have a way of naturally understanding people and not judging their individuality. I have something for everyone!
Are you feeling overwhelmed and need to realign your goals? Do you need help identifying your strengths to take control of your life and push pass your fears?
I am the coach for you and together we will do the work to help you recognize your self-worth, prioritize your goals, and speak life into your aspirations. It is important to LOVE yourself intensely, create opportunities for growth, and step into your purpose with authority.
Working with me will help you gain:
1. Clarity as you position yourself for greatness.
So last month in June I did a thing…I spoke at a conference for the first time and I will have the opportunity to speak at the Total Belle Royal Retreat this month and I’m so excited.
For the past four weeks I have been doing “Motivation Monday” on my FB Live and IG (@latilyarashon) because I find that while people are following others on social media, there is disingenuous interest in creativity. People are looking beyond the message and offering unsolicited criticisms about things not even associated with a persons vision and brand.
I felt triggered in a conversation one day and it spawned three thoughts in my mind that some people need to hear. Let’s just face it, if we spend so much time focusing on the mistakes of others there is truly something wrong with you individually on the inside.
First of all, stop letting people play in your face with their backhanded compliments. There is no sincerity in being fake. People will watch you long enough to figure out how to tear you down. Don’t let people trick you into thinking they have your back. The truth is unless they are “like-minded” as you, looking out for yourself is your best bet.
Secondly, in this new month of discovery and endeavors, you have to Be Diligent in everything you set out to do. It takes planning and commitment to get to the next level. In the process of planning, you have to be willing to learn something new daily and make sacrifices of your time. As you are working, be sure to research but don’t try to implement everything that you come across. You will wind up overwhelming yourself and stopping before you ever get started. So in your research, keep what you need and use it, but toss information that you find to be not helpful.
Lastly, Figure It Out! There is no blueprint or shortcut to you reaching your next level of success. Learn what you can and set your own timeline. There is no rush. Create your content, write your business plans, develop your marketing strategy, and most importantly…Be Yourself!
I have rebooted my drive monthly as a self-published author and I continue to nervously step out of my comfort zone. I’m doing what I can and I’m keeping people out of my face. LOL!