Writing to Heal Parts of Me

I have been asked how to write books, how to start a blog and my simple response is just to start writing. This is not my first time putting my story into the atmosphere, but this the space that puts the pieces of me together. I had a beloved blogspot but when I decided to step things up a notch back in 2016, I was not clear. I was simply stringing thoughts together and calling it a blog.

It was not until I sat down and outlined my first book that I realized I was diving into territory that was uncomfortable but was my wholehearted truth. I was nervous but I shared the tragic dissolution of my marriage in my first book and that was a huge mountain to get over. See, in my second year of teaching, I had only been separated from the Air Force a little over a year, I was still a new teacher, finishes up my alternative preparation program, and sadly my life was in turmoil. I was separated from husband of six years, and I was completely devastated. In the midst of all of those emotions, I still had to be a mother and figure out what I was doing in the classroom. I cried a lot that year, and simply felt like I had no control over anything in my life at the time.

I felt misunderstood by coworkers and even judged at times. I was completely ostracized from spouse’s family, and the only person I relied heavily the most on was my mother. She struggled with watching me deal with pains of my marriage because it was an pain that she had never experienced. She could’t tell how to fix things or how to navigate through the problems because she had never been married.

I was separated for two years before the divorce was final. We tried briefly to try to reconcile, but one day I asked him, “What are going to do?” He looked at me and said, “I don’t even like the word marriage.” That is when I knew I had to let go, as hard as it was. The reality of that pain is that I survived. Dealing with personal problems outside of your profession surely is a test of wills and each time there is a set back and life gets in the way, you learn how to bounce back. Of course at that time I was 30 years old, finding my voice as a woman and refusing to be treated as less than an equal partner. Now my tolerance for things that aren’t conducive to good vibes, I gladly shy away from.

Sharing my story, my ups and downs have become my survival guide because just when I thought I was ready to give up, my strength takes over. I know that I am strong but sometimes when I’m tired, I want to be able to be vulnerable in the arms of someone that will be my strength when I feel weak. We will lose ourselves many times in life but it’s always worth it to see the pieces get put back together as if they were never touched.

My heart as a mother will not let my children down because everything I do is for them. They make me better. My love for writing as an author gives me the ability to share my trials and triumphs. Some days are better than others, so I focus on the good even when I don’t feel like it. When I am in my classroom, teaching continues to add layers to my life and give me experiences that I would not trade for anything in the world.

The parts of me that make me unique, I gladly share and each time I reflect on my trials and my blessings, I am eternally grateful.

~xoxo

LaTilya Rashon

Passive Income and Business Sense

It has taken me a while to get this post out but I’ve been playing with the words in my head until it all came somewhat together.

The road that I travel as a single, mother of two, educated, teacher, self-published author and entrepreneur is not easy.  Some days I just want to say I’ll work my job for 30 years then retire and halt all of my creative ideas.

One morning I woke up with tears pouring from eyes and the overwhelming feeling of LIFE consuming me. It put things into perspective and I said to myself, “I have to get my business in order”, because calling into work while dealing with a family crisis is not my idea of a good start.

I need more clarity and while I watch, study, and YouTube other entrepreneurs and take in the tidbits they have to offer, I am reminded that this is not a race.  I have to create, discover, and discuss in my own lane and too often as a creative there is a certain amount of pressure to always deliver.

I speak a lot of times on my business in my mini-blogs on my IG (@tilyarealeyes) and FB (LaTilya Williams) but I don’t get into a lot of detail about what my business entails. Maybe I should!

As far as passive income goes while reading I have decided that I want to work on that in the months to come especially since one of the top passive income ideas is books.  But what exactly is passive income? My passive income would be considered my book because I get paid repeatedly for work that I completed once.  I push my book My Fourth Year in Middle School: My Fourth Year in Middle School to the point of feeling exhausted.  Although the concept of my book is good, I can admit that my marketing behind my book is/was lacking.  I now must go back into that book and pull out my content because next June is going to be really BIG for me. I’ll announce that later.

Passive income in affiliate market skipped me and that is something that I just don’t get and can’t quite get a hold of.  So I won’t talk anymore about something that I don’t get.  But I can say that once I invested in myself and got into network marking, that has fundamentally been the best thing popping.  LOL!  A failed attempt at drop shipping let me know that that business was not for me but I have yet to give up on my multiple streams.

Creating an online course as passive income stays on my frontal, but now being back in school I just feel that I don’t have enough time to focus on the type of class that I want to create.  Lets just be real, the idea is for me to earn an income while I sleep, so I’m not rushing my process.  I’m taking everything in and relying on my common sense to lead when it comes to my business.

I read a quote that said, “Everybody is so busy posting their wins instead of their failures.”  I find that sad because social media has us thinking that everything creatives produce is a win straight out the gate.  I have since realized that my plate is full and everything sincerely and truly takes times.

I will continue to cultivate my passive income ideas…writing services, books, and network marketing.  I will continue to feed my frenzy to try something different.  I will keep believing in myself and everything that I set out to accomplish.  I won’t ever stop designing a life that I want to live because at the end of the day I don’t want to leave this earth thinking about all of the things that I should have done.

I have since learned that I have to build up to my next title and create a buzz EARLY!  I have to be smarter in this department this go around so that I can capitalize more on my message.  Stay tuned, for that writing is underway.

So as I prepare for these next steps in my career, life, and journey I am so excited.  I never thought about my writing as passive income but this next book, 12 Ways to Survive Teaching is sure to ignite souls and have you look at teaching from a humorous perspective.

The reality is I want to be good at everything. I don’t just want to be a book you read once then place on the shelf. I don’t want to be name only mentioned here and there, I want to be a guru if you will in my own right. I never thought about the power of passive income until I began to do my research. Now I must be a smarter business woman. It is truly all coming together and I feel it.

I took the leap before I was ready and now I must overdeliver. I have a timeline and I will excute!

7 Things You Should Do In 2017

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In this New Year things will be different for some people, will remain the same for others, but it will ultimately represent completion for the risk takers, over-achievers, and GOAL DIGGERS!  I am a few months shy from the rebirth of my blog and with all of the things I have done with writing, experimenting, and finding my niche, I am moved by LIFE!

So as I was sitting home on New Year’s Day I had a burst of energy and the title, 7 Things You Should Do In 2017 popped in my head.  So here goes…

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Turning 35 in December put me smack dab in the middle of my 30s and Lord it hit me and I wasn’t READY!  But now as I look at my career over the past few years, six years in the military, a near year of working at Child Support Services (Not ideal for the working man), and in the middle of my ninth year in the traditional classroom (middle school teacher)…I am ready for something different.

I have earned multiple degrees (A.A.S., A.A., B.A., MPA, Ed.S., and Ed.D.), so now I want to transition into Higher Education.  So on with the pursuit!  If there is something that you want to do, the worse that can happen is being told no, but that does not mean give up.  That just means pour yourself into your pursuit.  It’s time and I feel in my gut that it is going to happen. This is my year!  So follow your instincts and take a leap, you just might enjoy the ride.  *Refreshing my resume, LinkedIn, Higher Ed. jobs account, and EVERYTHING else.*  Wish me luck!

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I found, booked, and fully paid for a cruise to Jamaica in 2014, but due to extenuating circumstances I was unable to go so I loss $1500.  Sounds like chump change right?  No the hell it don’t.  But after sitting at home these past two holidays…Thanksgiving and Christmas… I have decided I bet I won’t be here next year.  It is time to plan my trip to Jamaica and anywhere else I want to go.  I will escape my home life and you should too.  Whether it’s domestic or international, invest in yourself, your peace of mind, and take yourself somewhere that you’ve always wanted to go.  Jamaica…Aruba…Virgin Islands…Turks and Caicos… I swear I must have been an islander in my past life and thank goodness I already have a PASSPORT.

Write and Publish Your Own Book61yromeb5hl                                                      Everyone has a story or two to tell.  We are all made unique and our life experiences shape us into divine individuals.  For some my life as a country girl from a single parent home that has grown up to do the things I have done is inspiring and for some it might be a bore.  But what I know is that regardless of your backstory, somebody is interested in reading it.  Writing My Fourth Year in Middle School: The Truth About Teaching was extremely personal because it was my journey into teaching.  It’s not about the money; it’s about sharing my words, my talent, and my expressions.  So I challenge you all to put it on paper and watch it grow.  Tell your story…someone needs to hear it.

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Being recently separated after being married for a couple of years, I am suddenly facing no longer being married (I’m not mad, I’m GOOD and so is LIFE).  Oh My Goodness I was blindsided by some things but clearly it was time to let go.  But there are some really good looking men in this world so when a man steps correctly-spend time with him, get to know him, Netflix and Chill with himJ  Ain’t nothing wrong with kicking it with the opposite sex…respect your space…set your boundaries….but be an adult about all of that.  Have a crush, get you a kiss, hold hands, go to movies…throw on some Xscape and Just Kick It! YOLO! LOL!

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I have decided that I will purchase gift cards each month leading into the holiday season, but I need my NEST EGG to be back where it used to be.  Don’t get caught up in helping others (the parentals are not included) that you tell yourself NO.  I used to be able to have a few thousands in my savings but when you HELP someone too often you end HURTING yourself.  I don’t know anything about 501ks, stocks, bonds, cd’s…so that is going to be my next INVESTMENT…  I need my duckets lined up in a row.  My teacher retirement is one thing but the way my mind set up… Give Me More!  I’m trying to save enough for all of those rainy days…besides by the time my rays of sunshine (Lil Phil and Pressy) go on to college, I’ll be paying out of pocket! Jesus Fix It!  I need and you need your savings to match your mortgage and car note for at least three months.  I’m Just Saying!

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Blogs are the new diary.  Everybody can become Bridgette Jones.  Yes everyone has one but what is the message in your blog?  Crazily everyone is taking this blogging business haphazardly as I look around at people with profitable blogs.  You may not be looking today to express your thoughts, share your life, or build your platform but you have something to say and share.  I love my journey.  I love my blog and the feedback I get from it lets me know that I am reaching further than I imagined.  I am not really stuck on lifestyle, spirituality, or beauty…but now people are turning their personal interests into a business, and so should you.

Don’t Dwell on the Past

No one cares about your past unless you make it a reoccurring topic.  You have to ask yourself how am I going to build a brighter future.  Dwelling in the past does not propel your future.  Jobs/careers are not always dreamy, relationships fail, and life is always a battlefield you just have to decide to have faith or stress about what you can’t control.  Everyone has a past.  Live for today and take nothing for granted because your life has already been designed, outlined, and determined.  Because of my faith I am where I am supposed to be and I don’t REGRET a single thing.  Let Go and Move On!

In this New Year, I will strike out like never before and accomplish more.  I saw a meme that said it nice to see girls names on degrees rather than club flyers…check my resume…check my LinkenIn… these 7 Things You Should Do in 2017  will most definitely help me and YOU #BragDifferent

 ~TilyaRealEyes