I have been on an unapologetic tour and living my life my way because I never want to feel boxed in by anyone’s expectations or opinions of me. I am taking moments on the regular to embrace my current status and put myself first in all of my thought processes. I have had to learn how to be my own hero and not depend on anyone who was truly not going to be here for me. My renewed sense of self rears its pretty head as I wake up each day fully rested from the night before because I am in control of my existence.
I have a very strong prayer life and rarely do I share my closest thoughts with anyone because not everyone will be empathetic to your personal pains. I myself am an empath…the people in my life that I care an extreme amount about capture a part of my being that renders me incapable of ignoring their shifts and storms. I am a good listener and however abrasive I am at times, my friends know that I wouldn’t tell them what they want to hear just to appease their feelings.
See, at the onset of 2018 I had a lot of questions swimming in my head that made me adjust how I deal with confusion and then deal with the person causing the confusion. My brother says I’m a logical person that analyzes everything and that the way my brain works it makes abnormal. I accept that because I say it clearly whenever I am asked, “What is it about me?” I just simply say that I am DIFFERENT!
When I take a moment to pause everything that I need to see becomes visible. Everything that I need to hear is being said. And everything that I need to let go of is released because under all of this confidence is a woman that has felt unimaginable hurt that I have buried deeply inside of me because I’m not defined by those things. Not to sound like a cliche but yes everything happens for a reason. Discernment is a blessing when you recognize it as your gift.
I know things will come about in my life that will alter my views and challenge my thoughts and ultimately continue to push me forward. So as I live for the moment completely unaware of what is to come next, I will sit, wait, and listen.
Sitting Pretty: Sitting does not mean I will become a hermit and not enjoy all that life has to offer. It means that I will sit still and not move too fast on anything too soon. Like for instance, I went on a couple dates with this one guy and though he was nice—our ideas and thoughts were not in line with each other. I knew that I was not in the same mindset and the conversation of building with someone (a year post divorce) was not the life I’m envisioning for myself at the moment. I want to take some time to get know me, explore my creativity, push myself to the limit, and see how far my goals and aspirations will take me. Yes, I know I’ve done a lot already but I want more for myself. I’m in a season of selfishness and I cannot afford to be distracted by things that do not feed my drive. As I am sitting, I am watching and taking a lot in on a daily basis. When it is time to purge, I will be at a place in my life where all the pieces make sense and I will have elevated my existence… mind, body, and spirit. Until then I will sit!
Waiting Patiently: I am not waiting for a night in shining amour. I am waiting for my mind to slow down and not feel like everything has to happen immediately. No Rush! This second quarter of this new year is showing me a lot because as I slow down and take inventory of myself, I am becoming more appreciative of my time. I was asked by my students where all did I attend college and after I rambled off my 16 years of enrollments and degrees conferred, I smiled on the inside. I have worked tirelessly towards my credentials, my career, being a great mom, and maintaining relationships (significant others, friends, and family) that I’m burned out. I’m burned out from the nonreciprocal effort as I reclaim my peace of mind and focus on myself. The only people that come before me are my children because they depend on me to take care of them. I knew the day would come that I would slow down just a little bit to enjoy all that I have accomplished. I will wait in the balance of this life that I live and strengthen my mind…
Being Silent: I woke up one day about two weeks ago and decided that I was not going to speak on certain things. That didn’t mean that I was not going to talk, it just meant that my conversation had to be guarded a little bit more because oversharing begins to sound redundant. Again in casual conversation with my brother I shared my thoughts on a bothersome situation and while he sympathetically listened, I realized sometimes that’s all I need. Telling someone how you feel all of the time is not warranted and actually isolates you in those feeling from time to time. I thought at some point in my life I had to be open with the ones I cared about as an expression of my loyalty to them so they’d know in turn that I would always be there for them. Turns out…some people can’t handle your feelings and are confused about you at the same time. In my silence, I didn’t shut down, I just pulled back and decided I would speak on what is presented to me and not what I thought I should say. I received two phone calls as a result of my intention, my bestfriend and a dear friend. The in-depth conversations that were had provided clarity and peace that was welcomed for both them and myself. I have continued to be silent and prayerful for those two because the love and concern for them is real.
April has been a month of personal reflection and this has been what I’ve needed. I shifted from the business branding and blogging to focus on what is real in my life right now. I’m not conflicted nor am I lonely. I am surrounded by love and appreciation. I sit, I wait, and I listen, taking time for me as I continue my journey into self-care.
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