They say that you should smile at the people around you because you never know what somebody is going through. But when you can’t smile at people I say you should be a beacon of light that shines so bright that your positivity and inspiration speaks before you say a word.
I have been asked how I keep a smile on my face while dealing with the struggle, and I say it is because I know my worth. I was specifically asked how I am so happy while my life is in transition. My answer in short has been that I have to remember who I am, remember that my sons need a WHOLE mother, and I must place value in myself.
People that walk around “Happy” all of the time are living in a false reality, because hardships are a part of living and we all go through the struggle from time to time. However, we have to not remain stagnant in that struggle. We must deal with REAL life and move forward, but most importantly LEARN.
Taken from my post on Facebook a short list was born…in order to live my life more abundantly and Not Dwell in the Past…Sometimes you just have to speak things into the atmosphere, enjoy life to the fullest, and create the life I want to life.
Step one of my process is gaining a new lease on life. I had to realize that losing people in my life was not always a bad thing. Some losses are out of my individual control. Death is inevitable…but a breakup be it a long term relationship or marriage is NOT the end of the world. It may feel like the end of the world when you lose someone you love, but there is a blessing in losing someone that didn’t value your presence in the first place. Eventually you get tired of feeling unappreciated and realize that you deserve better. You will cry, flip out, reflect, question, scream, not understand, and then realize that it is time to LET IT GO! You can try to hold on, but if the relationship was meant to last it would. Sometimes letting go is hard to do but in order to have peace of mind it is necessary. No one person is perfect in a relationship, but when you know that YOU have done all that you can, make peace with your circumstances and know that YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Step two is to challenge myself and step out of my comfort zone. I am VERY black and white when it comes to rules because I have too much to lose. That does not mean I am perfect, don’t get upset and am not confrontational. It just means it takes a lot to get me to that point. Everything does not need a reaction, but when I do REACT be ready because it’s not going to be how you would expect. I’m very comfortable in my skin, so now that I am deciding to sit in front of the camera I am setting myself up for criticism from others. I am already hard on myself when it comes to my writing, so in order to grow I have to throw myself out there even more. Whether it’s writing academic content, working on my upcoming projects, or making VLOGS in order to get better I must first not rely on being comfortable. So PUSH yourself to do things differently and enjoy learning more about who you are and what makes you tick.
Step three is having fun while I fumble through my new experiences. Whether it’s a dinner date, movies, throwing back a few cocktails, or getting some new ink (I LOVE TATTOOS), there is NOTHING to STOP me from having fun. After being thrown completely for a loop, and having my world shaken up I have rebounded and know that I will LIVE my LIFE ABUNDANTLY WELL. My sons are growing and maturing into awesome little men. They are well taken care of and are happy to see their mom living a little rather being bogged down by sleepless nights and endless tears. I am deserving of a stress free life… I am not afraid to give love another shot. I removed toxic people from my life and while others want to assume, they have no idea just how GOOD my life really truly is. I have spent so much time taking caring of others, it feels good to have a friend in my life that makes things a little easier for me. I am able to relax. So I say to my followers and encouragers, OPEN UP an LIVE A LITTLE! Try NEW things…Don’t be so Quick to say NO!
Make a list, check it twice. Life is better with lists! Come back for more in the list series.